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#77 Relationship Connection the Secret Ingredient

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It’s not enough to say that we have to work at our relationships if they are going to work. We also need to know what to work on, how, and in what way. That “work” or “effort” should also be enjoyable and rewarding or we are going to tire and resent the “work”.

If the “work” is a struggle and doesn’t bring us anything in return we feel like we are banging our head on the wall and not getting anywhere.

I learned in engineering school that Work equals moving a force through a distance. That means if you push and push and push on a wall, but the wall doesn’t move you didn’t do any “work”. You spent a lot of effort, but nothing moved, nothing changed, and therefore no “work” was accomplished.

I’ve had conversations with partners that were like that. I’ve felt the struggle and tension, tried to speak, and listen, and felt like we got nowhere.

Then there are those conversations that really moved the needle into feeling good with each other.

I got listened to and understood in a way that I felt important and valued. What I didn’t know was that this wasn’t an accident. The person listening to me was doing some very conscious and skillful things in their listening to help me have that experience.

We talked about an uncomfortable topic, both got to say what we felt and ask for what we wanted. We both were heard by one another and all that icky uncomfortable emotions disappeared. I felt myself smiling inside and at my partner. It wasn’t just relief to be out of the “stuck” feeling, but a joy about where we were.

What was the difference?

What is the ingredient that we both brought to the conversation that moved us out of being stuck, through those uncomfortable emotions, and into feeling joyful?

Have a listen to the podcast for Eva Beronius and my take on what makes the difference in a healthy connecting conversation.

#76 Relationship Connection is Possible

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How many people do you connect with?

How many people can you share anything with, including your crazy thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and know you will not be judged or criticized?  How many people do you feel truly accept you just the way you are?

I began to wonder this about people. And so, I would ask my clients who else they talked to about personal matters and what they were feeling. The typical answer was “No one.”

Sometimes someone will have one or two people they feel they can really talk with. This might be their mom and a friend. But sometimes, that one person is a therapist.

I understood it. You want to be loved and accepted by your partner. Their love is precious, and to lose it would be painful. So we have these strategies of giving a good impression and hiding the stuff we fear they will judge us for. And so, our relationship is made “comfortable” in that space of keeping up a false impression and hiding our negative feelings and thoughts. However, it’s not comfortable long-term living in these masks and false versions of ourselves.

Yet we aren’t sure it is safe to take the mask off and be more truthfully raw.

How do we navigate these vulnerable moments of connection, so they don’t lead to disconnection?

Eva Beronius and I explore this in our second podcast in the series on Relationship Connection.

 

 

#75 Relationship Connection – The Struggle

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I gathered all sorts of habits and false beliefs in my childhood that later led to disconnection, disappointment, frustration, and heartbreak in a relationship.

One example was from the fairy tales and movies growing up. They painted a picture of “happily ever after” into my brain. Once you meet the right person, it goes seamlessly to “happily” ever after.” But, unfortunately, those stories planted a false paradigm that set me up for disappointment later.

I got into this “inner work” because I was struggling and unhappy in my relationships. I think a lot of people do. Even if their relationships are “good,” they may not feel good in them. Sometimes a “great relationship” brings up our inner fears, insecurities, jealousy, and other sabotaging emotions and behaviors.

When you are balanced on the inside with yourself, and you are balanced externally in emotionally connected and supported relationships, life is so much more enjoyable.

But we don’t show up with that in our life, at least I didn’t. So I had to work for it, both internally and in my external personal relationships. I had to figure out how to be connected with myself and how to connect with others.

This was not intuitively obvious. I didn’t have great relationships modeled for me. I had a good relationship model from my parents, but it was a 1950’s culture and traditional roles. Those didn’t work for me, so I had to work at it a system that did. I also had to “unlearn” the paradigms I had built in my subconscious patterns. What might those be? One was relating to adults as a child, for instance.

In this podcast episode, I join Eva Beronius from the “Uncover You” podcast to talk about the feeling of disconnection and struggles in relationships and map out when and where they happen. We identify how the ego and false beliefs play into those patterns that lead to feeling not seen, not heard, abandoned, alone, disconnected, unwanted, even when you are with someone.

And be sure to catch the next two episodes in this series because we will also discuss how and bring yourself and your relationship into connection and feeling whole.

“Relationships are the last bastion of emotional drama in the Dream of Maya” – one of my teachers, Bernadette Vigil.

If you can figure those out, then you are on your way to a happy life.

I hope you find some valuable nuggets in here.

And, if you do, please write a favorable review, perhaps on iTunes or the other platforms.

Thank you.

From Misery to Happiness

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Daniel’s journey from misery to happiness took a lot of work. There were many ingredients essential to making his transformation happen and he shares it here in this interview with him.

Daniel struggled with anxiety and depression for many years. His journey began with my books MindWorks, listening to these podcasts, and doing the online Self Mastery Course. More recently he has done personal coaching sessions with me to accelerate the changes.  I really admire his consistent effort. There are ups and downs, but the consistent effort has been essential to the transformation of his whole inner world.

There are common obstacles we face when we work to change our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs. I always like to get different people’s experiences on how they did it so others can benefit in understanding the obstacles, and what can be done about them. I think you will find Daniel’s insights and experience on his process valuable.

Why am I Unhappy

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Why am I unhappy, and Why do we suffer?  These are two questions that confound people personally, and collectively. We can be accomplished, and comfortable in our life, and yet internally feel dissatisfied, inadequate, shame and fear. We are confused because we look to understand these emotions based on our external circumstances. When you look inward to the narrative stories you are telling yourself in your mind, you will find the primary cause of unhappiness and suffering.

The narrative story in our mind is what produces those negative thoughts, self-judgments, and emotions. It arises from the core beliefs we acquired earlier in life, and that can be re-programmed with awareness.

One specific component of these narrative stories that cause us to be unhappy is the false identity our belief system creates about us. In this excerpt from a group coaching session, I describe the component of the false identity from our belief system.

#71 The Dream of Maya

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The Hindu goddess of Illusion doesn’t just reside in India. She resides in our own country, our news cycles, relationships, and in our own minds. She is a metaphor for the drama stories and distractions that devour our attention in unsatisfying ways and leads us into suffering. And if not suffering in a deeply painful way, then distraction from fulfilling our heart, soul, and emotional desires of a happier meaningful life.

I’ve been doing a digital detox. I gave up news for lent. I wanted to pull my attention out of the habitual cycle of opinions, fears, needing to be informed, emotions, and addictive social media scrolls. I wanted to clean up and clear space in my mind.  In the process, I had this dream last week. It represents the Dream of Maya, or illusions we live in. It’s the world of stories that play throughout the day and keep us so occupied that we miss so many beautiful things that could be enjoyed, appreciated, and loved in those moments instead.

In this podcast, I share the dream I remembered when I woke up.

#70 Mastering the Mental Game

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#70 Mastering the Mental Game
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Multiple times Pauline Victoria has done what most people would call impossible. Despite being born without arms or legs, Pauline has learned to swim, gone to college, lived on her own, worked in corporate, drives a car, and took up scuba diving. Pauline said she was able to do these things because of her “mental game”. I got curious and wanted to know what was involved in Pauline’s mastery of the mental game. Could other people do it, and if so how?

In this interview, I dig into to dissect Pauline’s “mental game” to find out what it is made of, how she does it, and what has given her mastery over her mental game. It turns out that mastery over her mental game involved several elements that aren’t just of the mind. They include:

Desire
Attention
Will
Faith
Support
Surender
Presence

You can be plenty smart and “know” a lot, but if you don’t include these elements in your skillset, you aren’t fully developing your mental game. Without these, getting what you want will talk longer, or perhaps, not even happen. Listen as I interview Pauline and break down how Pauline Victoria mastered her mental game to get what she wants no matter what. We both believe everyone has these resources that they can draw upon to change what they are doing and how they do it in their life. If you want your life to be different, then it is worthwhile to pay attention and master these skills for yourself.

You can learn to develop these aspects of your mental game through the Self Mastery Course practices.

You can find out more about Pauline Victoria at

PaulineVictoria.com

OneLegUpProductions.com

 

#69 Self Awareness – Why do people believe crazy lies, conspiracy theories, and illusions?

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#69 Self Awareness - Why do people believe crazy lies, conspiracy theories, and illusions?
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The recent election in the US has brought to the mainstage how people can believe in different realities. Which brings me to a more fundamental question how do we discern the truth? Whether it is vote counting, fraud, economic policy, tax policy, climate change, opposing sides are getting more polarized. In the loud, emotional narrative of stories, both inside people’s heads and externally, it is harder to discern the truth.

I’m not taking a side A or B.  I’d rather there be a critical thinking process that we can agree on that gives people the awareness and brainpower to discern fact from fiction, truth from illusion, and honesty from lies.  In my experience, a necessary resource a person needs is self-awareness.

Figuring out the truth isn’t straightforward.  Consider this; the mind is the mechanism that we use to discern the truth. And this is the same mind that generates stories, false narratives, daydreams, and fictional realities in our heads.  These two uses of the mind are contradictory. It’s no wonder people are having difficulty seeing the difference between truth and a made-up story.

#68 Voices in your Head

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Having voices in your head is actually quite normal. The mind can make a conversation, debate, argue, self-judgments, criticisms, or come up with funny dialog all by itself. Many people are identified with the voices of the mind, so don’t notice them as separate. They feel they are the entity doing all the thinking.

With awareness, you realize these narrative thoughts as coming from something separate from your “self.” When thoughts keep you up at night, and you can’t turn them off, you can see them as separate from your control. When you sit down to meditate, you might notice that they don’t do what you ask of them.

We hesitate to acknowledge that the mind generating thoughts on its own is separate from us as consciousness. In doing so, we do ourselves a dis-service of truth. Perhaps we hesitate because there is a stigma associated with having “voices in your head” as meaning crazy or having schizophrenia. This is an incorrect association. Most people of some awareness realize they have continual chatter in their heads that they are not creating. It’s often called  the “monkey mind.”

When you move into conscious awareness, you can realize yourself as separate from the monkey mind doing the chatter. From that state of awareness, you can explore the beliefs that drive these thoughts and many of the emotions. Most importantly, by developing skills, you can change the internal narrative of thoughts and their emotions.

For practical exercises to address the unconscious beliefs driving the programmed voices in your head, take the Self Mastery Course.

When you adopt a more truthful understanding of those thoughts’ sources, you can address and change them more effectively.  By shifting your sense of identity to consciousness and seeing your mind as separate, you can remove a degree of self-judgment. The thought that”I have some problematic thoughts” changes to, “my mind has some problematic thoughts.” This can give a feeling of relief.

 

 

 

#66 Trauma symptoms and treatments

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Trauma events can produce symptoms of anxiety, anger, suicidal thoughts, ADHD, panic attacks, or harsh self-judgments, and freeze responses.   Trauma is often experienced by people who later become alcoholics and drug-addicted.

Trauma isn’t just experienced by soldiers in combat that develops PTSD. These same PTSD symptoms are the result of an alcoholic parent, a car accident, surgery, abusive relationship, sexual assault, abuse, or bullying. You don’t even need to experience them directly. When you watch someone get bullied or suffer a traumatic event your brain is cataloging that experience in a way that can bring up fears later. It is calculating that this might happen to you.

Listen to the podcast as I give an overview of trauma symptoms and how a person’s nervous system responds to distort and confuse a person when triggered. I also share some of the better modalities for treatment. The effects of trauma can be undone and your brain and nervous system trained to be self-regulating and calm again.

Follow these 5 steps to get a good foundation and understanding for overcoming trauma issues.

    1. Join the Trauma Resource Group with Anna O’Brien HERE.Once you join, look under “Groups”.  It is a free resource. 

2.   Do this Breathing practice regularly : https://pathwaytohappiness.com/blog/podcast/how-to-relax/

I recommend that you work your way up to 15 min twice a day. More of you can. It will take time over weeks or months to reset your nervous system to a relaxed state as default, but it will be worth it.

 

3. Practice the lessons in the Self Mastery Course located here:

 

4. Get guidance and understanding from experts with these books and audios.

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine. He developed Somatic Experiencing which helps people release the memory trapped in the body.  It’s a good book to start with so you understand how trauma is created, held, and that it can be healed.

 

Three o    Or get the Audio Book 

 

Complex PTSD: from surviving to thriving by Pete Walker:  is written by a therapist that grew up in a trauma environment. He knows from first-hand experience what someone is going through.  After reading this book, my client’s response is often a relief to the effect. ” I finally understand why my thoughts and emotions do what they do and why I haven’t been able to control them. Now I know I’m not broken. I’ve just had trauma.

—     Or get the Audio Book   

 

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk is considered the kind of bible. It’s a deeper study of the history of trauma, how it’s been ignored, misdiagnosed, and misunderstood. He outlines how approaches like talk therapy fail, and why. It is backed up by studies he references, but that doesn’t make the information or content boring. He spends the last part of the book describing his experience with multiple approaches that really help heal trauma and their efficacy. If you just want to understand what you need to do personally right now for yourself, then get the two resources above. They will give more immediate help. If you want a larger lay of the land and deeper guidance on what will help and what won’t, then move on to The Body Keeps the Score.

Or get the Audio book version

Another good resource for overcoming trauma issues is The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller

 

Heller studied extensively with Peter Levine and the Somatic Experiencing work.  She combines that background to address insecure attachment issues through nervous system re-training.  I think her background and the exercises she applies are very helpful for developmental type trauma.

5. Work with a therapist who specializes in the treatment of trauma.

I recommend someone who is experienced in the treatment of trauma, which means 5 to 10 years of experience. That way they will have seen and heard it all and be relaxed about whatever you show up with. If you find a therapist that is uncomfortable about your trauma history and reacts, winces tightens their facial muscles, then keep looking. It is important that the person you are working with remains calm in all scenarios, as this will help your nervous system reset.  They can’t guide you to relaxation unless they know how to get there themselves.

The types of therapy that have been effective that I know of.

      1. Internal Family Systems

Types of nervous system treatments documented as effective:

      1. Somatic Experiencing
      2. EMDR (Uses various forms of bi-lateral stimulation )
      3. Emotional Freedom Technique

 

#65 Beliefs I’m Broken and Unlovable that Produce Shame

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“I’m broken,  I’m not lovable,  Something is wrong with me,  I’m not good enough.”

These are the narrative stories of thoughts that generate shame. Except it isn’t the thought that creates the emotion. It is the core belief that is carrying the shame. That belief generates  thoughts and adds more emotion and thoughts. It is a belief that isn’t true.

Then why would you ever come to believe those things about yourself?  And why, years later, would you still have your mind running with those thoughts when you intellectually know they aren’t true anymore?  Here are some answers that help with those questions in this episode.

If you can remember back far enough, and I have clients that do, they recall who they were before they ever believed something was wrong with them. That sense of ourselves as whole, complete, loved, loving, and just fine the way we are is a sense of ourself that we seek within. It’s there. It’s in everyone. It’s in you.

It’s underneath the layers of narrative false beliefs our mind tells us. Cutting through those false beliefs to get to your authentic self is what the Self Mastery courses are about. 

 

 

 

#63 Overcoming Trauma and Living Happy

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My interview with Anna who is waking up and being happy every day. That’s a log emotional healing journey from the emotions of anger, anxiety, depression, and anger that was overwhelming her everyday. Caused by earlier trauma in her life, Anna took an aggressive approach to change, which included applying the skills from the Self Mastery Courswork. 

Most people recovering from trauma, or just trying to stop their emotional reactions set the bar low. They hope to manage the problem. Many people, even professionals will tell them that’s all they can hope for. Anna didn’t buy that story. At first she just wanted peace. But as she got to have peace, and calm she began to experience love. Then she wanted joy, laughter, fun. Now Anna is working on feeling unlimited, and she wakes up feeling excited about that each day. That’s a long way from where she was 3 years ago, when she was afraid to go to sleep at might because of the nightmares, and afraid to wake up.

I don’t know all that “be unlimited” entails, but it’s something Anna is excited to explore.  Her hard work using the self mastery practices, combined with an aggressive application of trauma healing and recovery wasn’t easy. But listening to her, it sure seems worth it.

At numerous times the tunnel looking forward looked dark. Anna knew she could continue forward into the unknown, or go back at anytime. She kept going forward towards the unknown. Going back meant certain anxiety, anger, and depression.  Sometimes what looks like courage at going forward, may just be an unwillingness to keep doing what doesn’t work in your life.

You can find out more about Anna’s coaching of trauma clients at: https://livinghappy.com.au/

The Self Mastery practices that helped her develop the needed skills for change are at Self Mastery Courses

You can also watch this interview on video on Gary’s YouTube channel: 

 

#62 Overwhelmed with Emotions – Why am I so Angry?

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Have you ever been overwhelmed emotionally? Most of our emotions are created by our belief system. But sometimes, in cases of real physical threat to ourselves, or someone close to us, our emotions are no longer from our mind or beliefs. Our sense of survival is driven by physical and nervous system instincts that are millions of years old. Those automatic survival responses can over ride any conscious efforts of our attention and put us into raging anger, grief, fear, or freeze responses.

If you have done a lot of awareness and conscious development, you can stay present while your limbic system and nervous system do their response. It might take everything you have to refrain from acting out on your overwhelming anger or frustrations.

Afterwards our rational mind and belief systems get back on line. When this happens our belief system might generate thoughts about what just happened. The inner critic (Judge) usually has something critical to say about how poorly we handled that. However it has no idea of the real source of those emotions, where they came from, and why. In essence, your Judge is stupid.  Listen to this podcast to get a better understanding of those deeper survival emotions and how deeply wired into our system they are.  It goes back millions of years.

#59 Self Mastery Interview with Eva

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The website is called Pathway to Happiness, but the journey there isn’t always that pretty. It usually involves delving into the emotions and beliefs from our past and cleaning them up. The process can require a raw honesty with yourself, the lies you turned into beliefs earlier in your life, and the repressed emotions that you didn’t know how to release earlier. Eva Beronious shares her journey out of a life of regular panic attacks, depression, and career burn out.  Cause when you start there, going through that stuff mentioned above  is a step out of emotional hell. You are in it anyways, you might as well move through it.

#58: How to Relax

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There are reasons that breathing techniques can help you relax. Breathing, when done properly, bypasses your intellect and directs your nervous system to switch off the flight or fight mode of hyper-vigilance. This is something that you can’t do by thinking better thoughts or trying to be positive. Good breathing techniques allow you to work directly with your body to reset your nervous system, change your brain wave patterns, and return you organs and cells to a restorative process. This helps with digestion, your immune system and other healthy processes in your body.

There are several keys to breathing to relax your whole body. When put together it will be simple, but be sure to include as many as you can. Here is a short list. More details are explained in the audio podcast.

  1. Focus your attention in your torso area. The heart area is the best, but the diaphragm where you will be moving most of the air is also helpful. They aren’t that far apart so you can have your awareness on both
  2. Make your breath consistent. Find a relaxing pace and count the rhythm of the inhale and exhale. Breathe according to that rhythm. Making your breath cycle consistent is the most important factor. It reduces your heart rate variability which then changes your brain waves from beta to a more relaxing alpha.
  3. Breathe down into your lower belly using your diaphragm.
  4. Breathe through your nose as much as possible.
  5. Close your eyes if you have that option. If you are driving, in a meeting, or around people you can do the breathing with eyes open.
  6. Once your breathing rhythm has been consistent for a while, you may find it easy to lengthen the count of the inhale and exhale. Do this if it is easy and comfortable. Then be consistent with your breath in the new rhythm.
  7. When your attention drifts off, simply bring it back to your heart/diaphragm area and continue the rhythm. Let pass any need to address what the mind offers. Don’t follow up on a thought, or “fix” anything during this time. This is a practice of letting that other stuff go for now.
  8. Notice any subtle changes and sensations in your body as different areas make small relaxations.
  9. The slower rhythm of breathing will allow you to notice different feelings and have different thoughts. Welcome these as a sign of good change.

#57: Critical voice in your head

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The critical voice in your head telling you whether you are succeeding or failing at things is actually pretty stupid. It sounds smart, acts confident, and pretends to be an expert.  However, it hasn’t actually done any of the things it is criticizing you about. It has no expertise in learning the skill, or in coaching and guiding you to learning a skill. Sometimes it is just a fraud and you are better off not listening to it.

It behaves as a biased scorekeeper, always marking you down. It doesn’t apply how we really learn a skill, which is through a lot of trial and error repetition. It somehow expects perfection on the first try, even though that is not in reality how we get better. When you become aware of it’s impact you discover that it isn’t actually making you better. The result is that it acts more as a saboteur to demotivate you to continue learning and practicing. Your counter move to it’s antics is awareness and that will allow you to not believe what it says.

 

#56: Social anxiety from unconscious beliefs

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Most of your emotions arise from unconscious beliefs. In this podcast I describe a process to dig into the layers of your unconscious beliefs, and release the emotional beliefs trapped there. A man shares what he discovers as the source of his social anxiety that  began when he was in 3rd grade. You can use this method to discover and change the source of negative thoughts, anxiety, and other emotional reactions.

Sometimes the cause of the negative chatter in your head is from repressed memories and emotions that generate internal thoughts long after the event happened. These memories form a kind of belief. You may not remember the event, but it can still cause you to have negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors years later.

Helpful methods to find and change these beliefs can be found in the Self Mastery Course, the Releasing Emotions Exercise, and the Recapitulation Series – see all online trainings here.

#55: Origin of ego and false beliefs of identity

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What are the false beliefs that form our Ego?

Where do our false beliefs come from?  When did we begin to get these false beliefs of our identity and lose touch with our authentic self? What is our identity when we shed our mind’s version of who we are?

A critical step to getting back to an authentic self is that we have to dissolve the labels and stories (thoughts) that fill our minds with descriptions of ourselves. This version from the mind will always be a false version.

First, we need to get in touch with our authentic emotions.

To do this, we need to quiet our minds and dismantle the chatter. To do this, we have to release the beliefs that are causing chatter and inner dialogue. Once the waters are calm, the emotions become pleasant.

As we get deeper and deeper into those parts of our identity that we are most attached to, we can get stuck or find ourselves “trapped”. This can become a never-ending cycle.

For practical steps on how to rid the mind of the chatter of thoughts, beliefs, and emotional reactions check out the Four Free Sessions of my Self Mastery course. Or my book MindWorks.

#54: How do you recognize the truth?

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How can you tell if something is truthful or if it is a lie? From a consciousness perspective, even statements that are factual are still not the Truth. Words are what we use to describe a thing, or facts. But words are not the thing itself. The words used to describe a chair are not the chair itself.  The best words can do is to give you a factual description of the something that is true. But believing in the words, is not the same is believing in something that is true.

As Alan Watts describes, “The menu is not the meal”.  Don’t confuse a good description, or even facts with being the truth.  A description of what “Love” is, is not the same as love. A description of what “Beauty” is, is not the same as Beauty.

 

#53: Why lie to your self?

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Lying to your self can cause a response in the reasoning part of your brain that makes you feel good. Sometimes people confuse this good feeling with being right, or feeling that they have just agreed with an explanation that is truthful. Sometimes people are relieved from their “need to know” or a feeling of uncomfortable confusion by believing something that isn’t true.  Often times our analytical mind, or what I call the reasoning part of the mind doesn’t care if an answer or explanation is true, it only wants to be satisfied with having an explanation.

For some reference reading you might pick up Noble Prize winner for Economics Daniel Kahneman’s book Thinking Fast and Slow.