Have you ever tried to change a habit, negative thought, or emotional reaction and struggled to make that change stick? If you struggled to make changes it is probably because you didn’t address the underlying belief system driving that habit, thought, or emotion.
Belief systems affect every area of your life. Beliefs affect most of your emotions, thoughts you think, productivity, relationships, and attitude.
Your belief systems will determine what kind of decisions you make for yourself in terms of heath, food, exercise, financial independence, happiness, smart relationships or whether you will create chaos and drama in these areas. If you feel you, your life, emotions, or your mind is out of control then what is it that has control? It is your beliefs, most of which are unconscious that have control of your mind. Unless you become aware and begin to take charge of your beliefs your beliefs will continue to have control of your thoughts and emotions. Here is an example of how beliefs in your mind can take a small thing and spiral into a major event.
Your partner leaves a dirty dish on the counter (or some other pet peeve like not taking out the trash). You become upset, really upset. Your mind goes through a series of associations over the next 5 min or 5 hours. It creates a chain of narratives linking one thought to another leading your nervous system to spiral in emotions. It might go something like this: Continue reading
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Describing beliefs is difficult because they are invisible and silent in the beginning. Once you begin to notice them you will see them everywhere running people’s lives and the world.
|#65 Beliefs I’m Broken and Unlovable that Produce Shame|
To change a belief sometimes it helps to understand where and how it came to be. When you understand why and how you started to believe your thoughts about being wrong, bad, unlovable, or broken, you have new perspective on those ideas. You can understand their time and place from who you are today, instead of who you were when those beliefs may have helped. You can also see why it is not true today, or not true before that moment you began believing in your false ego identity as who you were.
|July 28, 2020|
|#51: Unconscious beliefs|
Unconscious beliefs are agreements we have in our mind that we have no awareness we are holding. In spite of not having any intellectual knowledge of our own beliefs, they can still cause us to have emotional reactions and sabotaging behaviors.
|July 20, 2016|
|#07: Identify and change core beliefs|
What are core beliefs and how do you identify them? That’s what many people are realizing they need to do to change their emotional reactions. The problem is where do you look to find core beliefs?
|October 31, 2006|
|#02: The Four Agreements and hidden assumptions|
In this episode I cover some places that assumptions hide. I do a little poking around to show you what they look like. I also show how they lead us down dark alleys chasing illusions in our mind. Becoming aware of those dark alleys of mental illusions will make it easier to get out.
|August 15, 2006|
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