Are you Intelligent or Stupid? Are you a Success or a Failure? It kind of depends on the moment of what you did that day. A runner will say, “You are only as good as…
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Damaging Effects of Criticism
If you want to change your life, consider this. Criticism is probably one of the most toxic and destructive things a human can do to themselves or another. Criticism and judgments are rejections. These include self-criticism…
Emotional pain and human suffering
Teachings I learned from Don Miguel Ruiz What I learned from don Miguel Ruiz is more than can be fit into the internet. (Unconditional Love gets lost in the digital translation) Before meeting Miguel, life…
Changing Core Beliefs
The first step in changing a core belief is to actually identify the agreement. What you will find when you look at an issue is that the mental agreements usually come in bundles. When you…
How to Identify Core Beliefs
Why is identifying core beliefs important to our lives? Let’s take a recent client of mine who was trying to lose weight. After some early success she couldn’t figure out why she reverted back to…
The Mind Creates Irrational Fears
The Mind Creates Illusions About Money that we React to with Fear People will often refer to their emotions or fears as irrational. But if we learn how emotions are created, we can see that…
Spiritual Seekers and Finders
In the world of spiritual growth and personal development are seekers who take upon a path in their life of self discovery. It will have a different emphasis for each person, perhaps, Spiritual, Emotional, Mental,…
Self Image
Your mind can create images, even images of yourself. Some images act like memories and are stored in ways that we are not aware of, or we might call unconscious self-images. Even though they are…
Core Belief Inventory: Anger
The process of developing self mastery requires that we be completely honest with our self. One of the tools to assist in this complete honesty is the core belief inventory. By making an inventory you…
Why self help doesn’t work at times
When self help techniques don’t work you can feel like a failure There are many wonderful self help suggestions to assist people to change their life and be happy. However it is my experience that…
Avoiding Emotions
There is a line from the movie, Thanks for Sharing. “Feelings are like kids. You don’t want them driving the car, but you don’t want to stuff them in the trunk either.” I mostly write…
Recapitulation
Recapitulation is a breathwork process for releasing the emotions, energy, negative self talk, and beliefs. It is a method for freeing yourself from the emotional baggage you collected in your past. In the recapitulation process…
Conditional Love
How We Learned to Love Conditionally I’m going to assume you had well adjusted parents. If you didn’t, then just amplify the impact of what you are reading here by the amount of extra drama…
Self Mastery Failure and Success
The exercises in the Self Mastery Course aren’t supposed to be easy. They might be simple, but that doesn’t mean easy. They do get easier with practice. It’s like learning to dance, or play an…
Why Do We Not Get Recognized by Others
Why we Fail to Gain Recognition from Others What kind of recognition do we seek from others? We want the acknowledgement of a job well done, or of something good about our character to be…
Why Do We Seek Recognition From Others
“People will work for money, but they will die for recognition,” is the way one business coach described the dynamic. Sometimes we seem to want or need recognition that bad. I was talking with a…
Core Beliefs of Anorexia
My new client has had anorexia for four years. I’m not very far into the inventory of her beliefs yet, but already there have been some interesting discoveries. As I suspected with issues like anorexia,…
Why Do We Have Resistance To Change
What are the forces of resistance that come up when you try to do what you want, and live the life you want? Sometimes it is that ever ambiguous and elusive thing called resistance. Are…
Bad Thoughts
Janet has a memory of when she was about 3 years old. She followed her mom into her baby brother’s room. Mom picked up her brother from the crib and laid him on the changing…
The Perfectionist
Perfection can Inspire us to a goal, or be a demon in our head that makes us suffer. The Perfectionist is one of the voices in our head. It has the role of pointing out all…