In the Relationship Communication and Connection Course, a key question came up while we were teaching how to hold presence to be a good listener: What do you do if the other person is angry…
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A Common Conversation Killer
I want to share with you one of the biggest conversation killers I used to be guilty of—one that hit me hard when I finally saw it. Have you ever found yourself preparing a response…
#75 Relationship Connection – The Struggle
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I gathered all sorts of habits and false beliefs in my childhood that later led to disconnection, disappointment, frustration, and heartbreak in a relationship.
One example was from the fairy tales and movies growing up. They painted a picture of “happily ever after” into my brain. Once you meet the right person, it goes seamlessly to “happily” ever after.” But, unfortunately, those stories planted a false paradigm that set me up for disappointment later.
I got into this “inner work” because I was struggling and unhappy in my relationships. I think a lot of people do. Even if their relationships are “good,” they may not feel good in them. Sometimes a “great relationship” brings up our inner fears, insecurities, jealousy, and other sabotaging emotions and behaviors.
Compassion
Accepting Life as it Is Without Sorrow or Emotional Reaction Common definitions of compassion read like the following: a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken with misfortune, accompanied by a…
Symbols of Love in Relationships
What are the symbols of unconditional love? To find what the symbols of unconditional love are, let’s talk about what love actually is. What is love? What are the symbols of unconditional love? Flowers can…
Emotional Safety and Security in Relationships
Are You In a Healthy Relationship? Evaluating whether you are in a safe, healthy relationship can be an important step. To love and be loved. Love, acceptance, respect, desire, security, and passion are all things…
Understanding Relationships and Emotional Drama
It can be difficult to understand a person we are in relationship with especially when sometimes we don’t even understand ourselves. Why do we feel good about ourselves one moment and bad another? Why does…
What makes you happy in relationships?
What makes you unhappy in your relationships? Be aware of the assumptions that your mind offers. Could it be something else? Many of us learned to believe early in life that other people determine our…
How to Overcome Jealousy
How to Overcome Jealousy Overcoming jealousy is like changing any emotional reaction or behavior. It begins with awareness. Awareness allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true. When you…
Source of Jealousy
Hello Gary, I would just like to firstly thank you for everything! You have made such a positive impact on my life so far with the Self Mastery program, your book and also the podcasts…
Love Is A Mystery
I was at a friends wedding recently and asked to share some words at their ceremony. I was inspired by the love and beauty of the preparations, and their devotion to each other and put…
Love is Not Enough
I know the song by the Beatles, “Love is All you Need” but I’ve learned to stop looking for truth about life in song lyrics. For me personally, to be happy in life and relationships,…
#37: Confusion about love, compassion, hope, integrity and loyalty
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Even the basic building blocks of language such as words can be distorted and made confusing by how the mind alters their meaning when we are not aware.
Feeling Trapped
We have cats. By their instinctive nature they chase things. Humans aren’t much different. Once in a while we will take out a pen sized laser pointer and put a red dot on the floor….
Can Compulsive Liars Change?
Compulsive Liars and how to deal with them The most important aspect to master when dealing with a liar is your emotional reactions. You can’t always change the behavior of a liar, but you can…
The Trap of Emotional Denial
The Meaning of Denial Do you know the meaning of denial? In my last post I talked about the Two Paths to Happiness. I’ll share a bit here about why it is important to actively…
#13: How to tell if a relationship will work
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There are specific indicators to tell if your relationship will run into trouble down the road. The signs aren’t found in how much love, romance or physical attraction there is. Two people can have great chemistry but still not be compatible.
Understanding the Mirror of Relationships
Some people talk in the personal growth and new age circles about using relationship as a mirror to understand your self. I’ve seen this idea of a relationship mirror described in so many ways, often…
Controlling Relationships
What are some dynamics of an emotionally controlling relationship? I want to look beyond some of the of verbal criticism, put downs, and judgments that are the obvious elements of emotionally abusive and controlling relationships….
Respect in Relationships
Gary, My lover consistently takes actions I feel are disrespectful and my reaction is that my desire to do loving things for her (sweet talk, flowers, even regular conversation) decreases dramatically. Q1 How do you…