In the last post, I wrote about the model for the mind as being alive. All the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs in the mind are alive as well. Then how do you get rid of…
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Repressed Anger
Repressed Anger Are you holding it back? At an event last year and I was walking to evening class. I passed Sam and asked him how he was doing. He said he was really angry….
Emotional pain and human suffering
Teachings I learned from Don Miguel Ruiz What I learned from don Miguel Ruiz is more than can be fit into the internet. (Unconditional Love gets lost in the digital translation) Before meeting Miguel, life…
The Mind Creates Irrational Fears
The Mind Creates Illusions About Money that we React to with Fear People will often refer to their emotions or fears as irrational. But if we learn how emotions are created, we can see that…
The Pursuit of Happiness
In Pursuit of Happiness Being in pursuit of happiness seems to be a big deal. Bookshelves and magazines fill volumes with the topic. Even our founding fathers thought it rated a line in the Declaration…
Core Belief Inventory: Anger
The process of developing self mastery requires that we be completely honest with our self. One of the tools to assist in this complete honesty is the core belief inventory. By making an inventory you…
Self Mastery Failure and Success
The exercises in the Self Mastery Course aren’t supposed to be easy. They might be simple, but that doesn’t mean easy. They do get easier with practice. It’s like learning to dance, or play an…
Why Do We Seek Recognition From Others
Recognition Defined “People will work for money, but they will die for recognition,” is the way one business coach described the dynamic. Sometimes we seem to want or need recognition that bad. I was talking…
Core Beliefs of Anorexia
Anorexia Treatment and Understanding Your Core Beliefs Want to learn more about this anorexia treatment plan? Let me preface by saying, this is not a typical anorexia treatment plan. My new client has had anorexia…
Why Do We Have Resistance To Change
What are the forces of resistance that come up when you try to do what you want, and live the life you want? Sometimes it is that ever ambiguous and elusive thing called resistance. Are…
Anger Management
The Best Anger Management is Anger Prevention If you are reading this you don’t need to be told how destructive anger can be. You are already motivated to make changes in your emotionally driven behaviors. …
Dealing With Political Fears
Be Mindful of Fear Based Beliefs Used In Politics If you are afraid your nervous system shifts to a fight/flight/freeze response and this puts your mind in the same type of thinking. You are in…
Fear Based Beliefs In Politics
Be Mindful of Fear Based Beliefs Used In Politics If you are afraid your nervous system shifts to a fight/flight/freeze response and this puts your mind in the same type of thinking. You are in…
Controlling Your Mind
Hi Gary, I’m sorry that I e-mail you again. But I have this big problem that might be hard to explain but I’ll try. Your whole course depends on the belief that you can control…
Belief Systems
This article is a transcript from a talk given by Gary van Warmerdam on Belief Systems. The Youtube video from that talk is embedded below. What we’re talking about is this thing called the belief…
#51: Unconscious beliefs
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Unconscious beliefs are agreements we have in our mind that we have no awareness we are holding. In spite of not having any intellectual knowledge of our own beliefs, they can still cause us to have emotional reactions and sabotaging behaviors.
Improving Relationship Communication
Small Relationship Changes That Get Big Results John Gottman studied relationships over many years noticing the small things we do in our interactions. By observing small gestures in their conversation he could tell with better…
How Not to be Jealous of Your Friends
Our mind can work like a computer doing multiple processes in parallel. In one story we are happy for our friend and their recent success. In a parallel emotional track we have a pang of…
How to Change a Belief
How to Change Your Mind When we talk about changing our mind, what we really mean is changing a belief within ourselves. With all our intellectual smarts and education you would think that changing a…
“How is everything?” | Why this could be a conversation ender
Asking “How is Everything?” could be a conversation ender Have you ever noticed that when you sometimes ask, “How is everything going?” that you get a conversation- ending, “Fine.” Reaching out to your partner for…