Why do I use ceremony and ritual in my process and at my events? The short answer is because it works. But that answer wouldn’t have sufficed for me when I started this inner work….
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Programs to Develop Personal Power
There are many programs and organizations that describe what they do as empowering people. Empowerment of people might even be in their mission statement. This is common language among personal development and personal growth organizations….
Controlling Relationships
What are some dynamics of an emotionally controlling relationship? I want to look beyond some of the of verbal criticism, put downs, and judgments that are the obvious elements of emotionally abusive and controlling relationships….
Developing Self Discipline
As you develop self discipline there will be obstacles to overcome. Mental and emotional associations you have in your mind about developing self discipline are some of the biggest. See if any of these associations…
Real Courage
I previously posted about what we typically learn to think of as courage. In that post I shared how my previous understanding of courage fell apart. The awareness and insight that I got from a…
Controlling Your Happiness
Here is the critical point to understand when it comes to controlling your happiness. You can control your happiness to the degree that you can control your attention in your mind. By controlling your attention…
Faster Personal and Emotional Change
Faster Personal Changes When a person engages in personal and spiritual growth practices they often begin with reading and gathering knowledge. This is a good place to start for background information. However the knowledge approach…
Opportunity for Success
How will you react or respond in those moments of a critical decision? Will you have the awareness and consciousness to make a wise choice that serves your long term goals and happiness? Will you…
Where Do You Focus Your Attention?
There is a lot of talk about the importance of focusing on the positive. There is certainly value in focusing your attention on the positive. However, like anything, too much of a good thing, can…
Secrets of Happiness
Happiness is the emotional experience created by you expressing the emotion of love. In every moment of joy and peace in your life you were creating love and expressing it. Feeling different qualities of happiness…
Understanding Emotions
Where do your emotions come from? Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts. That would be wrong. It is a bit more involved than that. It’s not just what…
Beliefs and Motivation
Should you take the band aid off slow or fast? Dan Ariely shares an interesting story of whether you should take the band aid off slow, or fast. If you do it slow, the…
The Most Important Thing for Your Happiness
What’s the most important thing for your happiness? The simple answer is Love. Love is not only a beautiful feeling, but an incredibly transformative force. When we express love we create a feeling of happiness. …
Faith and the Power to Change Your Life
Faith Some people define faith as a belief in something for which they have no evidence for. Others think of faith as a set of religious beliefs. These are limited uses and understanding of faith. …
Power Over Happiness
Dear Gary I have a question, I understand that an agreement can be changed regarding an emotional reaction. But, people do move to California for better weather, or move away from Los Angeles to get…
Overcoming Resistance
Overcoming Resistance “I can’t see this working he said.” He said it with a tone and inflection both of inquiry, and hopelessness. That’s what resistance will sound like sometimes. “Neither could I when I…
The Cause of Procrastination is the Ego
Procrastination – How it is driven by Ego and How to Stop. How many times do we say we are going to do something, and then don’t to it? How many times do we say…
What is wrong with me?
“What is wrong with me?”, is a question I get quite often. Honestly,,, nothing. In truth you are fine. There really is nothing wrong with you. That’s my perspective with everyone I talk to….
Lies, Beliefs, and Healthy Exercise
Have you ever run the same conversation in your head over and over again? You might find that after looking at it for a while you will notice a certain circular pattern. Of course that’s…