I guide a man through his fear of losing money. This one-on-one session demonstrates some of the techniques for isolating emotion within a narrative story, gaining a conscious observer perspective, and beginning to change one’s anxiety. You can learn and practice the skills to do this yourself through the Self Mastery Course and Recapitulation Course.
You might notice that I often respond by reflecting back on the client’s words and phrases. This is the very intentional manner of listening and affirming for a person in the process, with their eyes closed, trying to focus on emotions and thoughts that can often be elusive. However, this might seem a bit clunky in the conversation to an outside listener. So, as you listen, just overlook how odd it might sound and attempt to follow how this person identifies the anxiety in their body, takes control of it, moves it out of their body, and calms their anxiety.
The most important shift is that this man goes from feeling the anxiety controls him to becoming in charge of his anxiety and taking care of it so it can be reduced. If there was more time, or in another session, we might pursue dissolving the anxiety completely.
You can do this kind of process with any emotion. However, you may have to work on the skills to be effective at this. You can develop these skills through my Self Mastery and Recapitulation Courses.
Some of the key steps in this process of taking care of your Anxiety and other emotions are:
- Move into an observer’s perspective.
- Identify the emotion
- Shift it so that you are directing it instead of it directing your attention.T
- Treat it with Acknowledgment, Acceptance
- Listen to what it has to tell you.
- Act in a manner to help that anxiety calm down as if you were speaking to a young child.
For the record, this audio was edited to reduce the time and focus on the specific emotional process. We actually covered other things, and some branches of exploration did not bear as much progress that was deleted.
Peace Be With You
Gary van Warmerdam
