Asking for what you want might seem like a simple thing, but it isn’t. It is a complex process of noticing your desires, eliminating the selfish and unreasonable, feeling worthy of having, feeling safe that…
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Lessons From Integrity
A new online video class from Gary van Warmerdam This Advanced work will not be open to beginners. You will have to have completed the Basic Self Mastery series, and be well into the Phase…
How Our Mind Works
One of the ways our Mind Works is to automatically apply meaning to words and other symbols. This is a function of our learned belief system. I am having my book, MindWorks translated to Spanish. …
Becoming The Observer
Becoming the Observer is more than just thinking about yourself. It really is a different state of mind. Whether you are doing meditation, mindfulness practices, therapy, or other personal development work, becoming the observer is…
How Your Ego Sabotages Change
Instant Gratification: How Your Ego Sabotages Change The expectation of instant gratification isn’t always easy to recognize. I was talking with a client and he mentioned that the process of changing beliefs was too hard. …
10 Best Books on Relationships
Want healthy relationships in your life? Here are the 10 best books for improving your relationships Relationships are not just necessary for our survival, but play a major role in our happiness in life. When…
“How is everything?” | Why this could be a conversation ender
Asking “How is Everything?” could be a conversation ender Have you ever noticed that when you sometimes ask, “How is everything going?” that you get a conversation- ending, “Fine.” Reaching out to your partner for…
Happiness Is A Way to Define Success
How do you define success? I define success as Happiness. It’s my emotions that inform me what success and failure are. If I were depressed and suffering I would feel like a failure. If I…
Self Mastery Review
Periodically I get appreciative emails from people telling how the Self Mastery course has helped change their life. I don’t usually post them, but here is one of them. Your individual results will vary. Hi…
Resistance to Change
There is supposed to be Resistance to the process. I didn’t set out to teach happiness directly, and if you follow what I teach you will probably notice that I don’t. I don’t focus on…
Am I Overreacting
Am I overreacting? How can I tell? It depends on what part of the picture you look at. Your emotional reaction might be out of proportion to the individual event that triggered it. However, when…
Source of Jealousy
Hello Gary, I would just like to firstly thank you for everything! You have made such a positive impact on my life so far with the Self Mastery program, your book and also the podcasts…
Not Feeling Heard Is Anyone Listening To Me?
Not feeling heard? Try this. Sometimes we feel we are not being listened too. Sometimes that feeling is from an accurate assessment of other people’s behavior and sometimes it is just us. It may be…
How To Create Wealth
How Do You Create Wealth First take time to notice the abundance in your life. How much is your eyesight worth? How much is your hearing worth? How much is the ability to breath and…
Stopping Negative Thoughts and Emotions
Adam wants to stop the negative thoughts and emotions of anxiety, insecurity, and frustration. But there is more to it than just thoughts and emotion. When you look closer you find there is something pushing…
Needy Relationships | Getting Your Needs Met Without Being Needy
Being Needy in a Relationship Having needs is not the same as being needy in a relationship. No man is an island. And neither is a woman. We all have needs, but we don’t have…
The Glass Is Your Life
Do you look at the glass and see it as half full, or half empty? It’s a question about the thoughts you think and the emotions you create because of the thoughts you tell yourself. …
What is Your Self Worth ?
What is Your Self Worth? How do you value your self? Do you sometimes consider your resume or education to get an idea of how an employer would value you and use that standard? Are…
Stress in Childhood as a Cause for ADHD
Dr. Gabor Maté discusses the importance of environment and stress of the parent for mind and brain development in children. The topics he covers include ADD/ADHD, implicit memory and counter-will. He delivered his presentation at…