If you want to change—if you want to think, feel, and behave differently, if you want your relationships to be different—you’re going to have to face one important fact: You will have to do things…
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A Bigger Transformation
How many people can you share anything and everything with and feel fully accepted? For most, the answer is zero. Some are lucky to have one or two. That is not enough for the fulfilling social…
A Common Conversation Killer
I want to share with you one of the biggest conversation killers I used to be guilty of—one that hit me hard when I finally saw it. Have you ever found yourself preparing a response…
Are You Connecting in Your Relationship?
The Quality of Your Conversations Shapes the Quality of Your Relationships ?The conversation is the beginning and the backbone of relationships. A good conversation builds feelings of trust, respect, acceptance, kindness, and love. We know…
Not fitting in
Insights from one of my clients: These are my thoughts… Most people around us think that our life is in chaos. Lots of people, including friends, therapists etc have been giving me lots of advice…
Symbols of Love in Relationships
What are the symbols of unconditional love? To find what the symbols of unconditional love are, let’s talk about what love actually is. What is love? What are the symbols of unconditional love? Flowers can…
Emotional Safety and Security in Relationships
Are You In a Healthy Relationship? Evaluating whether you are in a safe, healthy relationship can be an important step. To love and be loved. Love, acceptance, respect, desire, security, and passion are all things…
Understanding Relationships and Emotional Drama
It can be difficult to understand a person we are in relationship with especially when sometimes we don’t even understand ourselves. Why do we feel good about ourselves one moment and bad another? Why does…
What makes you happy in relationships?
What makes you unhappy in your relationships? Be aware of the assumptions that your mind offers. Could it be something else? Many of us learned to believe early in life that other people determine our…
How to Overcome Jealousy
How to Overcome Jealousy Overcoming jealousy is like changing any emotional reaction or behavior. It begins with awareness. Awareness allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true. When you…
Healing and Reconciliation
Conflicts are bound to arise, whether they are in our marriage, with our children, or between groups in society. The resolution of conflict involves something different than figuring out who was right. Ego’s take us…
Belief Systems
This article is a transcript from a talk given by Gary van Warmerdam on Belief Systems. The Youtube video from that talk is embedded below. What we’re talking about is this thing called the belief…
Improving Relationship Communication
Small Relationship Changes That Get Big Results John Gottman studied relationships over many years noticing the small things we do in our interactions. By observing small gestures in their conversation he could tell with better…
Help Asking For What You Want
Asking for what you want might seem like a simple thing, but it isn’t. It is a complex process of noticing your desires, eliminating the selfish and unreasonable, feeling worthy of having, feeling safe that…
10 Best Books on Relationships
Want healthy relationships in your life? Here are the 10 best books for improving your relationships Relationships are not just necessary for our survival, but play a major role in our happiness in life. When…
“How is everything?” | Why this could be a conversation ender
Asking “How is Everything?” could be a conversation ender Have you ever noticed that when you sometimes ask, “How is everything going?” that you get a conversation- ending, “Fine.” Reaching out to your partner for…
Am I Overreacting
Am I overreacting? How can I tell? It depends on what part of the picture you look at. Your emotional reaction might be out of proportion to the individual event that triggered it. However, when…
Source of Jealousy
Hello Gary, I would just like to firstly thank you for everything! You have made such a positive impact on my life so far with the Self Mastery program, your book and also the podcasts…
Not Feeling Heard Is Anyone Listening To Me?
Not feeling heard? Try this. Sometimes we feel we are not being listened too. Sometimes that feeling is from an accurate assessment of other people’s behavior and sometimes it is just us. It may be…
Needy Relationships | Getting Your Needs Met Without Being Needy
Being Needy in a Relationship Having needs is not the same as being needy in a relationship. No man is an island. And neither is a woman. We all have needs, but we don’t have…