Fear Definition Some people say FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. That’s a nice acronym. It’s catchy. It’s also not true. Calling it False Evidence is saying that fear is an illusion or a lie. …
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What Should I Do
What should I do? When you ask this question to someone else,,, you are opening the door to giving away your personal power and creating a victim mindset. This is a dangerous question to ask. …
Suggestions for Success with the Self Mastery Program
Suggestions for Success To help you get more out of the Self Mastery program here’s a suggestion: 1. Don’t go for Perfection This may sound strange but the assignments I give aren’t always things you…
Growth from Failure and Imagination by J. K. Rowling
Graduation speech by J. K. Rowling at Harvard Commencement J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement from Harvard Magazine on Vimeo. Because of her experience, and failures, she has an extraordinary range of perspectives. With the…
Dealing With Grief
Hi Gary- I find your insights incredibly rewarding and helpful. I have been looking at your website (and bless you for making so much free btw), and one thing I see missing is anything about…
Faith and the Power to Change Your Life
Faith Some people define faith as a belief in something for which they have no evidence for. Others think of faith as a set of religious beliefs. These are limited uses and understanding of faith. …
The Story of Stuff
I can get away posting this video here because it relates to happiness. I can also do it because it’s my blog space and I can post if I want to. But more seriously folks,…
The Most Important Thing for Your Happiness
What’s the most important thing for your happiness? The simple answer is Love. Love is not only a beautiful feeling, but an incredibly transformative force. When we express love we create a feeling of happiness. …
Learning to be a Man
“The primary experience of being a man is being inadequate.” Robert Bly And then working so hard at a job, relationship, and success to overcome that feeling. We are a culture where grown men spend…
Overcoming Fear of Losing Money
Fear of Losing Money As you learn to live a happier life one of the things that will change is the quality of communication. Probably one of the most fearfully corrupt areas of communication is…
Self Improvement Myth: Setting Goals
Some people put a lot of importance on goals. They are big in the self help / Personal Development world. I’ve found that goals can sometimes cause misery and unhappiness that more than wipes out…
Feeling Connected
Gary, I have just completed the first Self Mastery course but am troubled by something. I agree with all you say and can see the validity of implementing each of your suggestions. However, a couple…
Criticizing Your Partner or the People You Love
Why do we say judgmental criticizing things to the person we love? Why we criticize our husband or wife and what we can do about it? Because we become so comfortable with that person that…
Stop Negative Thinking
A Problem with Self Help Bob decides to adopt some self help strategies in order to be happier in his life and relationships. In order to improve himself and his life, Bob decides to think…
Beliefs and Motivation
Should you take the band aid off slow or fast? Dan Ariely shares an interesting story of whether you should take the band aid off slow, or fast. If you do it slow, the…
Practical Wisdom: How to Be a Good Janitor
Barry Swartz on practical wisdom. How we lose our ability to think and adapt wisely to new situations as we create more rules. You cannot regulate yourself or others into the right action and moral…
Your Role in Life
Archetypes A few years back I was at my bank withdrawing some money. My intention was to invest in the market. I was referred to one of their investment advisers who told me, “That’s dangerous.” …
Understanding Emotions
Where do your emotions come from? Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts. That would be wrong. It is a bit more involved than that. It’s not just what…
Insecurity
Why we feel insecure In our mind we develop images of who we are. Our imagination develops a story of our self and we imagine our self in different roles. Those images and story roles…