I know the song by the Beatles, “Love is All you Need” but I’ve learned to stop looking for truth about life in song lyrics. For me personally, to be happy in life and relationships,…
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Persistence and Resistance
There might be simple rules or edicts to follow to be happy, but sometimes following them ain’t that easy. When we struggle to follow simple rules of happiness it is because fear and false beliefs…
Changing Limiting Beliefs – How Long Does It Take?
Changing Limiting Beliefs – How Long Does It Take? How long will it take?” they ask. That’s often the question as one is working through their issues of limiting beliefs, fears, emotional reactions, or sabotaging…
Happiness as a Goal Makes You More Successful
Do we work to be happy, or are we better off at work being happy first. Shawn Anchor explains how some of our beliefs about happiness and work may be backwards. One important point he…
Lies, Beliefs, and Healthy Exercise
Have you ever run the same conversation in your head over and over again? You might find that after looking at it for a while you will notice a certain circular pattern. Of course that’s…
Near Enemy
Avoiding Your Near Enemy Any good tool, technique, practice, or philosophy, can help you out of suffering and into greater happiness and love. When that tool, technique, practice, or philosophy is taken too far, it…
What is wrong with me?
“What is wrong with me?”, is a question I get quite often. Honestly,,, nothing. In truth you are fine. There really is nothing wrong with you. That’s my perspective with everyone I talk to….
Peeling Off Layers of the Onion
Some say that this personal transformation work is like peeling layers of an onion. That might be because it can cause you to cry a lot. Instead I liken it to cleaning. Big cleaning, like…
The Cause of Procrastination is the Ego
The Procrastination Meaning – How it is driven by Ego and How to Stop. To understand the procrastination meaning, we must understand how it starts. What is the procrastination meaning and how does it relate…
Challenging Our Myths
Common Sense, Myths, and Ghost Stores of the Spiritual Ego 15 years ago I was enamored with this personal development process. I had discovered a whole new world. I felt alive, happy, and excited about…
Practical Wisdom from Barry Swartz
Practical Wisdom Talk by Barry Swartz From the TED Talks Archives: We can’t solve our problems by laying down a set of rules and pretending that following them to the letter will produce desired results….
Dealing With Holiday Stress
Holiday Stress It is the best of times. It is the worst of times. It’s that time of year when we have more parties, social gatherings, big meals with family, presents, beautiful music, all celebrated in our…
The McGurk Effect: How Conditioning Affects Perception
How does our conditioning affect our perception. Watch this video and you will see how you HEAR sounds that are not there. Our visual cue is that we should hear a certain sound, and so…
I Should Be Further Along Than I Am
How many times in our process have we had the thought, “I should be further along than I am.” Really? To that comment I sometimes like to ask two questions, One: “In terms of percentage,…
What Should I Do
What should I do? When you ask this question to someone else,,, you are opening the door to giving away your personal power and creating a victim mindset. This is a dangerous question to ask. …
Faith and the Power to Change Your Life
Faith Some people define faith as a belief in something for which they have no evidence for. Others think of faith as a set of religious beliefs. These are limited uses and understanding of faith. …
The Most Important Thing for Your Happiness
What’s the most important thing for your happiness? The simple answer is Love. Love is not only a beautiful feeling, but an incredibly transformative force. When we express love we create a feeling of happiness. …
Learning to be a Man
“The primary experience of being a man is being inadequate.” Robert Bly And then working so hard at a job, relationship, and success to overcome that feeling. We are a culture where grown men spend…
Overcoming Fear of Losing Money
Fear of Losing Money As you learn to live a happier life one of the things that will change is the quality of communication. Probably one of the most fearfully corrupt areas of communication is…
Your Role in Life
Archetypes A few years back I was at my bank withdrawing some money. My intention was to invest in the market. I was referred to one of their investment advisers who told me, “That’s dangerous.” …