If you want to change your life, consider this.
Criticism is probably one of the most toxic and destructive things a human can do to themselves or another. Criticism and judgments are rejections. These include self-criticism and self-judgments. It tears humans apart inside and destroys relationships. Every expression of negative words comes with emotion, and over time it adds up. Subtract criticism and complaining out of your life and your world will change.
It can be difficult to notice the impact and damage it does. Each rejection thought is a tiny dose and by itself can be ignored as inconsequential. The little bit of toxic emotion it deposits in your system can be ignored because life is busy and you are on to the next thing.
It is like losing a nickel out of your pocket. One nickel doesn’t mean anything. It won’t change your day or your life. Except the mind is a repetitions story telling machine. It generates 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Lets take the most conservative numbers. If you had 10 negative thoughts per minute, you could easily have 10,000 negative thoughts per day. (10 thoughts X 60 minutes X 16 hours = 9,600). Keep in mind that average reading speed is 200 words per minute. If your mind gets into a loop of negative thinking the numbers could be higher.
“That was stupid of me” takes about 1 second to read and we can think faster than we can read.
Conservatively, that becomes 10,000 nickels, or $500 dollars in a 16 hr day. Multiply that by 30 and you lost $15,000 of emotional resources over your month. Multiple that by 12 and you have spent $180,000 worth of your energy on creating toxic emotions in your self and in your relationships.
Your life is made up of small moments. If you don’t have mastery over a thought or an emotion in a moment, you don’t control over your accumulated day, or your life.
What is driving that mind and emotions into making your life worse? It’s your beliefs. YOU own them. They are yours.
It is largely your beliefs that create your thoughts and many of your emotions. You can change them.
The Self Mastery Course exercises has the steps to re-train your mind.
This online program is a product of the work by Gary van Warmerdam