Want to know where your low self esteem and insecurities come from? It’s based on emotion, not self-image. To build self confidence and overcome low self esteem is to change how we feel emotionally about…
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Core Beliefs of Anorexia
Anorexia Treatment and Understanding Your Core Beliefs Want to learn more about this anorexia treatment plan? Let me preface by saying, this is not a typical anorexia treatment plan. My new client has had anorexia…
What is Your Self Worth ?
What is Your Self Worth? How do you value your self? Do you sometimes consider your resume or education to get an idea of how an employer would value you and use that standard? Are…
The Problem With Perfection
My life didn’t change in one moment. I wish it had been that simple. For me, big changes happen over time in many steps. One particular issue that I needed to change showed up fairly…
Insecurity and Depression
Hi Gary, I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for your incredible gift. I am 51 and have spent years and $$$ on trying to find the answer to my “problems”. I tried psychologists,…
Practical Wisdom from Barry Swartz
Practical Wisdom Talk by Barry Swartz From the TED Talks Archives: We can’t solve our problems by laying down a set of rules and pretending that following them to the letter will produce desired results….
Self Improvement Myth: Setting Goals
Some people put a lot of importance on goals. They are big in the self help / Personal Development world. I’ve found that goals can sometimes cause misery and unhappiness that more than wipes out…
Insecurity
Why we feel insecure In our mind we develop images of who we are. Our imagination develops a story of our self and we imagine our self in different roles. Those images and story roles…
What Should I do After Graduation?
Ask Gary I would really appreciate your help with a question. I’m graduating from high school this year and trying to figure out what I should do. When reading about your background, I noticed that…
Feeling Trapped
We have cats. By their instinctive nature they chase things. Humans aren’t much different. Once in a while we will take out a pen sized laser pointer and put a red dot on the floor….
Real Courage
I previously posted about what we typically learn to think of as courage. In that post I shared how my previous understanding of courage fell apart. The awareness and insight that I got from a…
Facing Fear
I’m in my final year , of high school and today I got one my quizzes back (worth around 2-4%). I realized I had gotten a 60% and a 69% on two different parts. At…
How to have Confidence
Question from the forums on Steve Pavlina.com where I responded. A lot of people think I am a confident guy… I think I am very good at faking confidence. Why? Because doubt is a constant…
Insecurity in Relationships
Dear Gary, I just experienced this jealousy reaction. I have a girlfriend for a year now, but still struggle with the fact that sometimes I feel I’ve been giving in too much and that she’s…
The Voices in My Head
What are the voices in my head? How do they have a life of their own? Where did the voices in my head come from and why is it so hard to make it be…