You don’t need to be ready to heal emotionally in order to heal. I often witness people who don’t feel ready to heal emotionally. They come up to the edge of taking action to free…
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The Trap of Emotional Denial
The Meaning of Denial Do you know the meaning of denial? In my last post I talked about the Two Paths to Happiness. I’ll share a bit here about why it is important to actively…
Two Paths to Happiness
There are basically two ways to approach being happy in your life. The first way to be happy is to practice doing all the things that bring you to happiness. This might seem to be…
Jealousy Question
Ask Gary, I wrote to you about a week ago about how my jealousy issue and how I have a problem with my girlfriends past, and how that is very hypocritical of me because my…
Real Courage
I previously posted about what we typically learn to think of as courage. In that post I shared how my previous understanding of courage fell apart. The awareness and insight that I got from a…
Spiritual Growth Stumbling Blocks
Now I’m going to get to the point I originally wanted to make in my last post about spiritual growth stumbling blocks. In my last post I got on to another in the set up…
Spiritual Journey through Illusions
Years ago I was on a trip through the southwest and was camping in Zion National Park when I found what I was looking for in my quest. I was journeying in a dream at…
Developing Self Discipline
As you develop self discipline there will be obstacles to overcome. Mental and emotional associations you have in your mind about developing self discipline are some of the biggest. See if any of these associations…
I want to be happy
The desire to be happy takes many forms. For simplicity sake I’ll just talk about two forms of desire for happiness. One type of desire to be happy looks to be the strongest, but in…
Personal Growth Is Not Linear
Progress is not linear, particularly when you are changing core beliefs. Sometimes they are like walls we are hitting with a hammer. We are working and sweating and it seems like nothing is changing. Then,…
How to Change Beliefs
A course subscriber sent me this email about ten weeks after starting the Self Mastery Course. From Steven and his wife M. I don’t know where to begin in telling you how the audio sessions…
Understanding the Mirror of Relationships
Some people talk in the personal growth and new age circles about using relationship as a mirror to understand your self. I’ve seen this idea of a relationship mirror described in so many ways, often…
Be Impeccable with Your Word
In the book The Four Agreements, the author Miguel Ruiz offers a code for living a life of peace and happiness. The first principle Miguel offers in this code of conduct for your life is…
Facing Fear
I’m in my final year , of high school and today I got one my quizzes back (worth around 2-4%). I realized I had gotten a 60% and a 69% on two different parts. At…
Controlling Relationships
What are some dynamics of an emotionally controlling relationship? I want to look beyond some of the of verbal criticism, put downs, and judgments that are the obvious elements of emotionally abusive and controlling relationships….
How to have Confidence
Question from the forums on Steve Pavlina.com where I responded. A lot of people think I am a confident guy… I think I am very good at faking confidence. Why? Because doubt is a constant…
Desire for Love and Consciousness
Hi Gary, There is one issue that I have been pondering about, and wonder if you can help me with the benefit of your experience? The one common thread in all experiences of realization, or…
Insecurity in Relationships
Dear Gary, I just experienced this jealousy reaction. I have a girlfriend for a year now, but still struggle with the fact that sometimes I feel I’ve been giving in too much and that she’s…
Gratitude for Happiness
I thought of creating a testimonial page, but figured out that it would be easier to post these on my blog pages periodically. Not just for shameless promotion, but for common understanding, and breaking the…