Fear of Losing Money As you learn to live a happier life one of the things that will change is the quality of communication. Probably one of the most fearfully corrupt areas of communication is…
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Self Improvement Myth: Setting Goals
Some people put a lot of importance on goals. They are big in the self help / Personal Development world. I’ve found that goals can sometimes cause misery and unhappiness that more than wipes out…
Feeling Connected
Gary, I have just completed the first Self Mastery course but am troubled by something. I agree with all you say and can see the validity of implementing each of your suggestions. However, a couple…
Criticizing Your Partner or the People You Love
Why do we say judgmental criticizing things to the person we love? Why we criticize our husband or wife and what we can do about it? Because we become so comfortable with that person that…
Stop Negative Thinking
A Problem with Self Help Bob decides to adopt some self help strategies in order to be happier in his life and relationships. In order to improve himself and his life, Bob decides to think…
Beliefs and Motivation
Should you take the band aid off slow or fast? Dan Ariely shares an interesting story of whether you should take the band aid off slow, or fast. If you do it slow, the…
Practical Wisdom: How to Be a Good Janitor
Barry Swartz on practical wisdom. How we lose our ability to think and adapt wisely to new situations as we create more rules. You cannot regulate yourself or others into the right action and moral…
Your Role in Life
Archetypes A few years back I was at my bank withdrawing some money. My intention was to invest in the market. I was referred to one of their investment advisers who told me, “That’s dangerous.” …
Understanding Emotions
Where do your emotions come from? Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts. That would be wrong. It is a bit more involved than that. It’s not just what…
Insecurity
Why we feel insecure In our mind we develop images of who we are. Our imagination develops a story of our self and we imagine our self in different roles. Those images and story roles…
A Better New Year Resolution
News Years Resolution Most New Year’s Resolutions fail. After a few months a person is back at their old habits and routines. One reason well intended resolutions fail is because we are already overloaded. Our…
Happiness and the Myth of Success
We are inundated since childhood with the philosophy to create happiness through successful achievement of our goals. Often this approach continues into adulthood. If we are offered another strategy for happiness later it isn’t nurtured…
Different Aspects of Love
Dear Gary, Generally I find I can either answer questions I have by listening to something you’ve already recorded or by simply realizing the question was bogus to begin with, but every so often I…
Understanding Anger
Why Anger Isn’t Irrational Anger is the natural emotion created in a fight-or-flight situation by the physiology of your mind and body. When you sense a threat your mind generates fear and anger. The fear…
2 Reasons Why Self Improvement Lists Don’t Provide Value
The blogs are running rampant with self improvement lists. They often begin their titles with a number and sound like: 12 Keys to Building Trust, 7 Actions to Make Your Self Happier, 8 Principles of…
Breaking Emotional Eating Habits
Emotional Eating – Addictions to Food David is working through the issue of his unhealthy food addiction. He often binges on sweets like ice cream, candy bars, and soda pop. This isn’t a matter of…
Using Drugs for Your Spiritual Journey and Conscious Awakening
Hi Gary, I have been hearing a lot about LSD lately and the effects of it on the mind and how it can expand consciousness. From what I heard it can give you the same…
Changing Your Point of View
Oh what a difference a point of view makes… Dear Gary, I have an experience to share instead of asking a question this time. I was doing the journal exercise and looking at a particularly…
Impeccability of Your Word
With your words you have the power to lift people up and inspire them towards love. You also have the power to put them down. When you believe the words of another you are using…