“The primary experience of being a man is being inadequate.” Robert Bly And then working so hard at a job, relationship, and success to overcome that feeling. We are a culture where grown men spend…
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Overcoming Fear of Losing Money
Fear of Losing Money As you learn to live a happier life one of the things that will change is the quality of communication. Probably one of the most fearfully corrupt areas of communication is…
Your Role in Life
Archetypes A few years back I was at my bank withdrawing some money. My intention was to invest in the market. I was referred to one of their investment advisers who told me, “That’s dangerous.” …
Understanding Emotions
Where do your emotions come from? Some people are under the assumption that your emotions come from your thoughts. That would be wrong. It is a bit more involved than that. It’s not just what…
Happiness and the Myth of Success
We are inundated since childhood with the philosophy to create happiness through successful achievement of our goals. Often this approach continues into adulthood. If we are offered another strategy for happiness later it isn’t nurtured…
Understanding Anger
Why Anger Isn’t Irrational Anger is the natural emotion created in a fight-or-flight situation by the physiology of your mind and body. When you sense a threat your mind generates fear and anger. The fear…
2 Reasons Why Self Improvement Lists Don’t Provide Value
The blogs are running rampant with self improvement lists. They often begin their titles with a number and sound like: 12 Keys to Building Trust, 7 Actions to Make Your Self Happier, 8 Principles of…
Changing Your Point of View
Oh what a difference a point of view makes… Dear Gary, I have an experience to share instead of asking a question this time. I was doing the journal exercise and looking at a particularly…
Understanding Happiness
A woman was doing some research on Happiness for a school project and had a few questions for me. I typed up the answers to her questions on happiness and thought I would post them…
Overcoming Self Judgment
Self Judgment for Not Breaking the Pattern of Self Judgment David had a relationship break up about 5 years ago. In the aftermath he felt miserable. The voices in his head were kicking in with…
Secrets of Happiness
Happiness is the emotional experience created by you expressing the emotion of love. In every moment of joy and peace in your life you were creating love and expressing it. Feeling different qualities of happiness…
What Should I do After Graduation?
Ask Gary I would really appreciate your help with a question. I’m graduating from high school this year and trying to figure out what I should do. When reading about your background, I noticed that…
Consciousness
Consciousness There’s a lot we could say about what this brain researcher realized about the mind during her stroke, and her recovery. One point is that we have many different modalities with which to perceive…
How the Mind Affects Your Happiness
As humans we live in two worlds. There is the external physical world of work, family and friends that we travel in. Then there is the world of our mind and imagination. It is a virtual reality that can appear and feel just as real. When it comes to your emotions the virtual world of your mind can be more real.
Faster Personal and Emotional Change
Faster Personal Changes When a person engages in personal and spiritual growth practices they often begin with reading and gathering knowledge. This is a good place to start for background information. However the knowledge approach…
Feeling Trapped
We have cats. By their instinctive nature they chase things. Humans aren’t much different. Once in a while we will take out a pen sized laser pointer and put a red dot on the floor….
Being Optimistic
I don’t consider myself to be a motivational speaker. I consider myself to be more of a skeptic. Not a cynic, or a pessimist, but a skeptic. I talk a lot about the issues of…
Opportunity for Success
How will you react or respond in those moments of a critical decision? Will you have the awareness and consciousness to make a wise choice that serves your long term goals and happiness? Will you…
Controlling Your Happiness
Here is the critical point to understand when it comes to controlling your happiness. You can control your happiness to the degree that you can control your attention in your mind. By controlling your attention…