I write this to help you understand some of the inner landscape of emotional reactions that you might be navigating or perhaps to help you understand someone close to you. Making Sense of the Inner…
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Sources of Emotions
In my book MindWorks, I describe nine sources of emotions. Here, I will explain just two of them and describe how they create conflicts and repressions in our bodies. Sometimes, people notice that some of…
The Inner Critic – a Conversation
The following summarizes two guided conversations I had with my client John, and a voice in his head I call the Judge. You might be more familiar with the term inner critic. It’s the kind…
Steps to Love and Accept Yourself
My friend Robert had a plaque on his desk. It was a play on the word “Savior”. It read: Savyour Self. What is Self Acceptance and Self Love? It’s kind of the opposite of…
Emotional pain and human suffering
Teachings I learned from Don Miguel Ruiz What I learned from don Miguel Ruiz is more than can be fit into the internet. (Unconditional Love gets lost in the digital translation) Before meeting Miguel, life…
Feeling Unworthy and Beliefs about Perfection
What constitutes your image of perfection? Take the judgmental thoughts you have and look at the criteria of expectation that is behind the judgment. In other words, what criteria do you have to attain in…
Changing Core Beliefs
Changing Core Beliefs Changing a core belief doesn’t happen in a day. It may not happen in a week, month, or year! Everyone goes through the steps of changing core beliefs at a different pace….
How to Identify Core Beliefs
Identifying Core Beliefs Why is identifying core beliefs important to our lives? Let’s take a recent client of mine who was trying to lose weight. After some early success she couldn’t figure out why she…
Challenges and Frustrations in the Workplace
How To Handle Workplace Conflict Handling Workplace Conflict Starts with Challenging Our Paradigms in Work and Career Some of our biggest frustrations in life can come from our work environment and any type of workplace…
Overcoming Low Self Esteem and Insecurity
Want to know where your low self esteem and insecurities come from? It’s based on emotion, not self-image. To build self confidence and overcome low self esteem is to change how we feel emotionally about…
Core Belief Inventory: Anger
The process of developing self mastery requires that we be completely honest with our self. One of the tools to assist in this complete honesty is the core belief inventory. By making an inventory you…
Why Does the Mind Create Misery
Your mind isn’t designed to make you happy. It developed circuits over millions of years designed to keep you alive, and safe from hurt. As a byproduct, and because of some false belief circuits it…
Conditional Love
How We Learned about Conditional Love I’m going to assume you had well adjusted parents. If you didn’t, then just amplify the impact of what you are reading here by the amount of extra drama…
Why Do We Seek Recognition From Others
Recognition Defined “People will work for money, but they will die for recognition,” is the way one business coach described the dynamic. Sometimes we seem to want or need recognition that bad. I was talking…
Core Beliefs of Anorexia
Anorexia Treatment and Understanding Your Core Beliefs Want to learn more about this anorexia treatment plan? Let me preface by saying, this is not a typical anorexia treatment plan. My new client has had anorexia…
Emotional Healing
Emotional healing is a process. It requires a number of skills. You will need some control over your attention, the ability to be present with the emotions you discover, and the ability to release them….
Why Do We Have Resistance To Change
What are the forces of resistance that come up when you try to do what you want, and live the life you want? Sometimes it is that ever ambiguous and elusive thing called resistance. Are…
Bad Thoughts
Janet has a memory of when she was about 3 years old. She followed her mom into her baby brother’s room. Mom picked up her brother from the crib and laid him on the changing…
Anger Management
The Best Anger Management is Anger Prevention If you are reading this you don’t need to be told how destructive anger can be. You are already motivated to make changes in your emotionally driven behaviors. …
What Causes Anger?
What Causes Anger? What causes anger in a person? Why do we get angry over the smallest things and blow up out of proportion with what is happening? Why do we get angry at the…