Where is your ego hiding? ? Your ego hides by disguising itself as You. It makes a mental version and then it pretends to be You. In this way it creates a second version of your…
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The Inner Critic – a Conversation
The following summarizes two guided conversations I had with my client John, and a voice in his head I call the Judge. You might be more familiar with the term inner critic. It’s the kind…
Emotional Self Abuse – How it Works
How we abuse ourselves emotionally with politics. “In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will…
What Causes War
War. It’s on my mind. Actions in Russia and Ukraine are causing really deaths, destruction of loves, and suffering. Here are some rambling thoughts. I’m paying attention to what is going on in Ukraine. I…
Self Awareness of Your Story
I had a dental checkup. My experience was basically a result of my attention, and the stories I made up during the hour. How did it go? What was the story I told to…
Consciousness VS. The Ego
What is Consciousness? If you are wondering what consciousness is and how you get there, you are not alone. Asking “what is consciousness?” is like asking what is love? You don’t know what love is…
The Mind Creates Irrational Fears
The Mind Creates Illusions About Money that we React to with Fear People will often refer to their emotions or fears as irrational. But if we learn how emotions are created, we can see that…
Self Image
Self Confidence and Self Image Your mind can create images, even images of yourself. Some images act like memories and are stored in ways that we are not aware of, or we might call unconscious…
Conditional Love
How We Learned about Conditional Love I’m going to assume you had well adjusted parents. If you didn’t, then just amplify the impact of what you are reading here by the amount of extra drama…
Why Do We Not Get Recognized by Others
Recognition Defined | Why Do We Not Get Recognized by Others What kind of recognition do we seek from others? We want the acknowledgement of a job well done, or of something good about our…
False Humility and Self Image
I used to think that I knew it all. No. That’s not correct. It was worse than that. I knew that I knew better than other people. I didn’t want to act like I had…
Forgiveness Self Mastery
A message from a subscriber about her experience doing the Self Mastery Series Exercises. Gary, I wanted to circle back with you on this newest installment of the Self Mastery program on forgiveness. I must…
Becoming The Observer
Becoming the Observer is more than just thinking about yourself. It really is a different state of mind. Whether you are doing meditation, mindfulness practices, therapy, or other personal development work, becoming the observer is…
How Your Ego Sabotages Change
Instant Gratification: How Your Ego Sabotages Change The expectation of instant gratification isn’t always easy to recognize. I was talking with a client and he mentioned that the process of changing beliefs was too hard. …
Resistance to Change
There is supposed to be Resistance to the process. I didn’t set out to teach happiness directly, and if you follow what I teach you will probably notice that I don’t. I don’t focus on…
Needy Relationships | Getting Your Needs Met Without Being Needy
Being Needy in a Relationship Having needs is not the same as being needy in a relationship. No man is an island. And neither is a woman. We all have needs, but we don’t have…
The Problem With Perfection
My life didn’t change in one moment. I wish it had been that simple. For me, big changes happen over time in many steps. One particular issue that I needed to change showed up fairly…
Voices In My Head
Is it normal to have voices in my head? Actually, yes. It does not mean you are crazy or need medication. From a separate interview about her backround: Jon Ronson: Let’s back up a…
Self Sabotage
Hi Gary, My name is Patty and I just wanted to share with you something that happened in the past few days. You see, I am a senior veterinary student and I am preparing to…