Regret is a product of Imagination How We Create Regret Step 1. Consciously or without our awareness our mind imagines a different life of different choices and outcomes. Step 2. Then or mind compares that…
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Self Mastery Failure and Success
The exercises in the Self Mastery Course aren’t supposed to be easy. They might be simple, but that doesn’t mean easy. They do get easier with practice. It’s like learning to dance, or play an…
Why Do We Not Get Recognized by Others
Recognition Defined | Why Do We Not Get Recognized by Others What kind of recognition do we seek from others? We want the acknowledgement of a job well done, or of something good about our…
Why Do We Seek Recognition From Others
Recognition Defined “People will work for money, but they will die for recognition,” is the way one business coach described the dynamic. Sometimes we seem to want or need recognition that bad. I was talking…
Core Beliefs of Anorexia
Anorexia Treatment and Understanding Your Core Beliefs Want to learn more about this anorexia treatment plan? Let me preface by saying, this is not a typical anorexia treatment plan. My new client has had anorexia…
Emotional Healing
Emotional healing is a process. It requires a number of skills. You will need some control over your attention, the ability to be present with the emotions you discover, and the ability to release them….
Projecting Emotions
A woman lived near the forest. She would look at the forest and say to herself that it looks really scary in there. The forest looked like a dark and scary place. It felt like…
Why Do We Have Resistance To Change
What are the forces of resistance that come up when you try to do what you want, and live the life you want? Sometimes it is that ever ambiguous and elusive thing called resistance. Are…
Bad Thoughts
Janet has a memory of when she was about 3 years old. She followed her mom into her baby brother’s room. Mom picked up her brother from the crib and laid him on the changing…
The Perfectionist
Perfection can Inspire us to a goal, or be a demon in our head that makes us suffer. The Perfectionist is one of the voices in our head. It has the role of pointing out all…
Anger Management
The Best Anger Management is Anger Prevention If you are reading this you don’t need to be told how destructive anger can be. You are already motivated to make changes in your emotionally driven behaviors. …
What Causes Anger?
What Causes Anger? What causes anger in a person? Why do we get angry over the smallest things and blow up out of proportion with what is happening? Why do we get angry at the…
Happiness Is All Made Up
Someone kicking the tires on my Self Mastery program asked, “Is being really happy possible? I think this talk about living with love is a bunch of Pollyanna Woo Woo. It might just all be…
False Humility and Self Image
I used to think that I knew it all. No. That’s not correct. It was worse than that. I knew that I knew better than other people. I didn’t want to act like I had…
How to Stay Conscious and Aware
How to Stay Aware and Conscious The challenge in remembering to be mindful is that this isn’t about remembering at all. It is not like trying to recall a fact like the capitol of New…
How To Stay Mindful
When we learn something new it is important to note progress. It keeps our confidence up, and reinforces that we are doing the right thing. The most common sabotage to our mindfulness progress is the…
Dealing With Political Fears
Be Mindful of Fear Based Beliefs Used In Politics If you are afraid your nervous system shifts to a fight/flight/freeze response and this puts your mind in the same type of thinking. You are in…
Fear Based Beliefs In Politics
Be Mindful of Fear Based Beliefs Used In Politics If you are afraid your nervous system shifts to a fight/flight/freeze response and this puts your mind in the same type of thinking. You are in…
Biased Beliefs in Your Politics
When I was a kid I rooted for my home team. If the referee made a close call against the other team, I agreed with him. If he made a close call against my team…
Lessons From Integrity
What is Integrity? We are multi-dimensional beings. We have emotions, but are not our emotions. We have a mind, but are not our mind. We have a soul but are not our soul. We have…