If you are seeking greater happiness then you need control over your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. If you have been working on this then I’m sure you already know the key is changing your belief systems, and that they operate below your conscious awareness.
You have also figured out that reading books, meditation, yoga, affirmations, and most talk therapy, does not identify or change your unconscious beliefs.
Other people have transformed states of depression, stress, anger, jealousy, and anxiety into feelings of compassion, gratitude, and unconditional love by building new neural pathways. So you know it can be done.
You realize that the chatter and emotions stemming from your unconscious beliefs is what interferes with establishing an “observer point of view”, necessary for an effective mindfulness practice.
And you have probably read about neuroplasticity in the brain and how it can be “re-programmed” with new neural pathways.
When you break free of beliefs and learn the skills to direct your own emotional state, you have the the power to create emotions of gratitude, love, compassion, and joy.
With belief system skills you can change the voice and tone of your inner dialog to be a helpful supportive advisor working for you.
...when reactions like anger, anxiety and negative self talk no longer affect you. Instead there is space to think clearly and trust your self. With the skills you develop through these practices you can direct your focus and feel confident that you are making the best choices and actions available to you.
The skills you learn to change thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can be applied to every area of your life, and allow you to feel better in your relationships, family and career.
Even though it’s obvious that beliefs hold the key to changing your emotions, thoughts and behaviors, the process of changing them might not be straight forward.
Unconscious beliefs are obstacles sabotaging our efforts for personal change. They show up as fears, doubts and emotional reactions. It might look like this:
With your best intentions and all the willpower you can muster, you read all the self-help books and listen to your meditations and positive thoughts apps. And yet…
[iconpress id=”local_3431″ title=”rain” style=”color:#525252; font-size:30px;” ] … your good intentions get drowned out by the 100’s of other thoughts coming from your unconscious beliefs during the day.
[iconpress id=”local_3431″ title=”rain” style=”color:#525252; font-size:30px;” ] … that “person” did the one thing that triggered you and the emotions you were holding down with your will power building up pressure burst.
[iconpress id=”local_3431″ title=”rain” style=”color:#525252; font-size:30px;” ] … in the tiredness, and stress of the day, you couldn’t push those negative thoughts away anymore and succumbed to that negative thinking
Most people are going to approach changing their thoughts, emotions, and behavior patterns in a way that fails. Not because they are bad at something, but because:
Fortunately, you don’t have to rely on book knowledge or willpower. You can develop skills.
You can effectively address overwhelm and confusion by using a system. A system that can be applied to changing beliefs as well as resistance showing up along the way.
However, for those skills and that system to work, you need to avoid a few misconceptions.
When my clients made these mindset shifts their progress took off.
What your mind thinks it needs is some information or knowledge.
(That’s why all that time reading self-improvement books)
My clients realized they needed skills and personal power to control their attention, perspective, and emotions for healthy processing.
Your mind wants the simple answer, and so it looks for the change to be done in one step – “quick fix” way. It’s trying to win a game of checkers in one move.
My clients realized that the patterns they were trying to change had been around for years and were part of their personality and they didn’t know how to separate from them.
Simple approaches can work for simple beliefs that don’t have much emotion or history. But if you have invested in an emotional pattern for years, (often for emotional protection) then the issue is a system of several beliefs with resistance to removing that pattern. My clients realize changing strong patterns permanently takes several steps. They start seeing a series of moves in the game instead of looking for one move to win.
You might have this as a simple sabotaging thought:
“I’ve tried to change these patterns before and I’ve failed, so I don’t think this will work for me. “
What my clients realize when they take time to reflect :
“I’ve tried everything I know, but I haven’t tried everything there is. There are things I don’t know and skills I don’t have.
I haven’t combined skills and steps together, and addressed beliefs as a system from a perspective of consciousness.”
What a part of your mind might believe it’s doing is being skeptical about a process or program.
What my clients realize this part of their mind is actually doing is being cynical. It is letting their doubts, fears and limiting beliefs sabotage their willingness to explore something new and make changes. My clients realize they can’t let their “Cynical mind” dictate their growth choices.
My clients thought they just needed to change their thoughts, emotions, or behaviors.
My clients realized they need to change the beliefs that create their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. And to do that they need to raise their level of conscious awareness.
If you understand and adopt these mindset shifts
then changes are possible for you too.
It used to be that only my personal coaching clients got the guidance and techniques to work through their resistance to changing beliefs. Now you can get my insights, shortcuts and advanced practices I use to guide my individual clients.
In this course, you will learn self-awareness skills to create a powerful observer perspective and state of consciousness that enables you to gain control of your mind. You will then learn a belief change system to dissolve your old emotional reactions and sabotaging behaviors.
In the lesson videos, I show you how to use the right tool, at the right time in the best way for maximum results. I’m taking what I’ve been coaching for 20 years with satisfied clients and sharing it with you in these videos.
In these videos, you will get detailed insight on each lesson that addresses a specific skill, and how that relates to changing a specific aspect of your belief system. Together these skills connect in your awareness into a system to develop your consciousness. These are the recordings from an online class used to get them past the resistance their mind put up. You can put aside the fear of the process failing you because you didn’t have all the resources you needed. IF this course worked for a hundred people, then it can work for you.
/Gary van Warmerdam
The course consists of the 10 lessons over 20 weeks where you get to practice the skills needed to change your thoughts and emotions by addressing the unconscious beliefs underneath. Every lesson consists of an introduction video, an audio recording of your practice, guided meditation, video class that connects the practices into a system for changing beliefs, and Q and A video clips. We expect your mind to have resistance to changing beliefs and you will get plenty of guidance for that in the videos where I answer questions that go with each lesson.
Intro to being aware of narrative stories and how they create emotions. With gratitude you being consciously using the narrative story to create your own emotions. Discover what beliefs look like, and how they get you to act unconsciously. You become aware of what perspective and attention. This is critical if you are going to maintain the consciousness of an observer.
In this lesson you get a journaling practice that can stop your mind from telling those repeating thoughts. The perspective shift will guide you out of being entrained in your thoughts to the observer. This is the critical first step for moving into consciousness. In week 2 you'll get a video class with guided meditation to deepen this move into the perspective of consciousness.. The Q&A takes you to understand the resistance the mind puts up and why.
You get to step back from your mind that wastes energy on "trying to fix" things. You will build more personal power and maintain your perspective of Consciousness. This is critical for finding the underlying beliefs. The meditation will deepen your experience so you will know acceptance as a a peaceful feeling.
With your observer consciousness you will become aware your mind has different voices with different agendas. By including them in the journaling exercise you will be extending your consciousness furthe rinto the neutral observer. In the video class and meditation you begin to experience your Self as separate from your mind.
You will gain the awareness of how simple thoughts and conversations become beliefs, or reinforce existing beliefs. More importantly you will apply a simple practice to refrain from investing your personal power into these beliefs. This extra personal power you have will strengthen your will power. This is critical for addressing your emotions in a new way in week 9.
You will learn two simple exercises to raise your awareness of your emotions, appreciate them, and change them with this breathwork practice. You will feel relieved knowing what to do with strong emotions instead of avoiding and repressing them. You can let go of the fear of emotions, and the fear of being overwhelmed by them.
In this lesson you get the understanding of how the mind has woven layers together. You will no longer think of you thoughts as chaotic. In the guided meditation you move further into consciousness and observe how the different parts of your mind interact with each other while you practice calm relaxed presence. You will leave this training knowing that you can be calm and relaxed even though the mind is doing drama.
From the calm relaxed state of awareness you have been building you can stay out of the narrative stories and investigate the underlying core beliefs they arise from. With your developed conscious awareness from journaling you can focus your attention with skepticism on false premises your mind has held. You will leave this training knowing there is nothing needed to change a belief but to remain separate and refrain from supporting it.
In this lesson we flip the script and observe the story other people tell you so that you can detach from the false beliefs they pull you into. With this awareness you can release yourself from the guilt, shame, caretaking, fixing, and reactions to others about their emotions. In the meditation on week 16 we apply an expansion of consciousness to increase compassion with forgiveness to this detachment.
After having gained awareness of how your beliefs have been creating your emotions through narrative stories, I flip the script and we focus on how other people are responsible for their own emotions. Then you go on a journey recovering the personal power you used to spend feeling guilty or ashamed for how you made them feel. In the guided meditation we address these relationships with compassion and awareness to make the process healing and healthy. This is a critical recovery from old stories that will feel empowering.
With some or many of the past stories dissolved, you will find quiet space in your mind. With the possibility and will power developed to focus your own attention, I will guide you into methods of creating deeper emotions of pleasure, enjoyment, and peace. With the silent mind class on week 20 we look out further on the horizon on how to get the most benefits from this course going forward.
Now that you have been using the skills to develop your conscious presence, and you can detach yourself from the emotional patterns and stories, you will find that you have more free space in your mind and energy to create. With your new tools it is time to explore what changes you want to make next, and how to do that. I'll give you guidance on what to consider in your new life.
But don’t just take it from me.
Here are some of the results people have gotten from practicing these skills in their own words:
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(And then go on to get big changes to their inner world)
Emotions are created because your mind interpreted an event meant a certain thing. These are automatic and quick interpretations done by your unconscious beliefs. Emotional reactions are created by your belief system. Yes, there are different sources (read my book MindWorks for a list of 9 different sources) but the main source of our negative emotions is from our false beliefs operating in our sub-conscious.
Changing beliefs is addressing the source of emotions. The Self Mastery approach is the most comprehensive system for changing these beliefs
I regularly have clients who have this fear. They are always surprised, and relieved to realize they are not a terrible person. What they discover is that the “terrible person” was just a false image of themselves that they believed was them. They also found some emotional patterns and memories from their past to release, which they were able to do with the practices. The Recapitulation practices are very good for these releasing processes along with the Emotions practice from Lesson 9.
Beyond that false belief image they discover a really great person.
What I can tell you is that if you have a fear of being a “terrible person”, then you have a desire to NOT be a terrible person. Your desire to “not be terrible” is evidence that you are a good moral person in charge of your choices.
It is very common for my clients to have gotten overwhelmed in their attempts before they had a system and developed skills. That’s why the Self Mastery program is spaced over 20 weeks. It takes a few weeks and repetitions to build each skill and to build a strong neural pathway that becomes automatic.
It is these new neural pathways that you will be building through exercises so you gain control of your attention and perspective. The exercises you will be practicing will also give you skills to process your emotions and release them in a healthy way. This way emotions don’t build up and overwhelm you.
With the Academy coaching classes to guide you even more efficiently we can pinpoint what happens in the “overwhelm” cycle and address it. This is why I say that The Self Mastery Academy is the most comprehensive training system for changing your beliefs.
I developed it by working with people who had tried and failed due to things like “overwhelm” in their other approaches.
The skills you learn in the Self Mastery Course will do better than teaching you to stop your emotions. You will learn healthy ways to process and release your emotions so that you don’t have to avoid, fear, or repress them. You need emotions. Turning them off is like numbing out. Often that leads to not caring about things, and can cascade to depression.
Healthy movement of your emotions through your body without believing your thoughts isn’t learned while growing up. This is one of the major skills I realized my individual clients were lacking. When I improved the Self Mastery Course I included an extra exercise on releasing emotions.
What we learned was to repress them until the pressure built up and we vented. Another problem loop we get into is we believe our thoughts in those emotional moments, thereby reinforcing those beliefs. This often involves judgment or blame. In the Self Mastery exercises you will learn skills to avoid these automatic responses. In the video classes you will get guided instruction on exactly where and how to apply these release practices.
This is one of those self help myths. “What we put our attention on grows”. It’s not that simple. If we put our attention on an idea and accept it as true, it becomes a belief and grows. However, if we put our attention on a belief, and are skeptical of it, it becomes less powerful and can dissolve. It’s not just that you put your attention on something, it matters what you do with your attention, and action.
You can put your attention on your emotion, and it can take you for a spiraling ride til you feel out of control. This is what happens when you don’t have skillful control over your attention. In the Self Mastery course you will learn control over your attention. When you combine that with other skills you can place your attention on your negative emotions and beliefs to dissolve them.
Let me help you by clarifying who I had in mind creating this course:
No matter the change you want to make, you will need to do it from a level of consciousness that is different from the emotional mind and story creating the negative drama.
This Self Mastery Course if for elevating your awareness and consciousness so you can effectively address and change those thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It does so by getting to the root cause beliefs that drive your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
You’ve done the free introductory lessons but aren’t sure if the Self Mastery Course will help you with your issue. Here’s what one of my subscribers wrote me:
“What I find with the belief work Gary gives is that it checks all the boxes in the sense that if I have an inner issue, a triggering thought, emotion or outside event, I feel that I always have the tools to do something with it. I am not left in the dark with vague spiritual statements without something practical to apply.
The challenge in mindfulness meditation, or other modalities, is that the thoughts and emotions are continually distracting and interfere. The Self Mastery approach is a fast way to remove the beliefs generating the internal dialog of distracting thoughts.
Even if you already feel connected to a greater source and are working on building the life you want – if you haven’t addressed the underlying belief systems chances are that old patterns will creep back in. Or that you will develop new ones that aren’t the ones you’ve hoped for. Many of my clients combine the Self Mastery practices with other techniques with great success.
What is making your mind loud and unfocused? It’s the belief system of thoughts and emotions continually arising. The thoughts and emotional reactions are symptoms of a belief system.
If you have been trying to change the symptoms without addressing the cause then you have likely ended up frustrated and feeling like a failure. These are the emotions that your belief system generate as well.
It is by putting your attention on those belief systems, with a skillful approach, and a system of techniques, that allows you to effectively change those thoughts and emotions. The Self Mastery Course is the most complete system for changing those beliefs. I guarantee it.
I’m Gary van Warmerdam and I’ve been doing Self Mastery work since 1994. I’ve been teaching and sharing for 20 years. I continue to learn and get better, both in my life practice, and in the toolbox of coaching and teaching skills. The changes in my life have been amazing. This is the love, awareness, peace, and gratitude that I longed for. What motivates me is that I want others to have the experience of life they long for as well.
I’m excited to share in this upgraded Self Mastery Course because I know the results it delivers to those that practice. You develop your consciousness which moves you to changes so much faster than a person who is just working with their intellect or will power. I look forward to having you join us on this journey.
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