What you are going to pay attention to are your thoughts, emotions, body posture, perspective, attention, and personal power. If you can track those things you can change them.
Often you won’t notice these things until after the fact when you are writing about them. That is fine. You will learn lot by taking this reflective or reviewing perspective. It trains your brain that these qualities are important. Then, with repetition you will notice these elements in the moment. Then you will be able to change them in the moment.
This is going to start by learning how to make small changes. You will gain greater control over your attention with each thing you practice. Don’t worry that the mountain is big. Just keep taking steps.
Some of the exercises will have resistance. You may not have resistance to some or any of them. But if you do, we don’t want you to get knocked off your path. And if you do, then we want you to learn from it, get more aware, stronger, and see how to stay on the path next time those resistance elements show up.
The resistance are will help identify some of the common culprits that are testing to see how much you want this. In a way, they are challenging you and making you stronger with the gravity they make you work against.
Impossible to tell. Often the belief that people feel is the problem is just what their intellect is focused on. Usually the real important belief with all the emotion is a layer or two underneath that.
I’ve seen some that took 2 years. But this was a case of strong sexual abuse, a schizophrenic mother and alcoholic father. She found acceptance of herself, forgave her mom, and is no longer afraid of being around strangers.
In my own journey I didn’t find some for 2 years. But I didn’t have an organized system like the Self Mastery course when I started.
I’ve also seen big beliefs change in an hour.
When those big beliefs have changed in an hour, it has always been because someone put in a lot of preparation work and dismantled other beliefs to weaken them first.
A lot of it depends on how many years you have been packing your personal power into the same concept. It also depends on how willing and open you are to change your perspective.
|Spiritual Seekers and Finders|
In the world of spiritual growth and personal development are seekers who take upon a path in their life of self discovery. It will have a different emphasis for each person, perhaps, Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, Relationship, or Fun. Amongst all the spiritual seekers or personal development workshop takers ,there are occasionally “Finders”. Spiritual Finders are the people that take the process to an emotional level. …
|December 26, 2018|
|Why self help doesn’t work at times|
When self help techniques don’t work you can feel like a failure There are many wonderful self help suggestions to assist people to change their life and be happy. However it is my experience that much of the time the techniques offered aren’t effective in creating lasting change. They also might leave people judging themselves for failing in their efforts when they don’t work. The …
|November 20, 2018|
|Self Mastery Failure and Success|
The exercises in the Self Mastery Course aren’t supposed to be easy. They might be simple, but that doesn’t mean easy. They do get easier with practice. It’s like learning to dance, or play an instrument, or a new language. In the beginning, you can’t put two steps, two notes, or two words together. Later, you can move through a song or conversation without having …
|June 26, 2018|
|A Process For Change|
Like the seasons, every year I go through a process of change. I take time to reflect on what I do, how I have spent my time, what I enjoy, what is fulfilling, and what doesn’t work. It isn’t the only time during the year that I do this, but at the end of each calendar cycle I take extra notice. I put aside some …
|December 29, 2016|
|Resistance to Change|
There is supposed to be Resistance to the process. I didn’t set out to teach happiness directly, and if you follow what I teach you will probably notice that I don’t. I don’t focus on the positive very much. I spend more time focusing attention on false beliefs and egocentric thinking that interferes with being happy. More than half the battle is identifying false fear …
|August 30, 2015|
|Free of Judgmental Thoughts|
Living Without Judgmental Thoughts Several years ago, I spent the day with a friend from high school and her class of second graders. For physical education we went to the grass field and played a modified game of baseball. For a ball we used a tennis ball that was more fun and less dangerous to play with. The batters used a racquetball racket so that …
|December 9, 2013|
|Persistence and Resistance|
There might be simple rules or edicts to follow to be happy, but sometimes following them ain’t that easy. When we struggle to follow simple rules of happiness it is because fear and false beliefs pull us off track and into an emotional ditch of misery. It’s easy to say the words, “keep on the path,” it’s another thing to do it. To overcome how …
|May 22, 2012|
|Noticing Resistance and Measuring Progress|
Resistance and Progress One of the clues that inroads are being made on your belief system and emotions is when the Judge and Victim really complain about this work. They will tell you things like it isn’t working and it is a waste of time one day. The next day they will say that you aren’t doing it enough and because of that you are …
|April 16, 2012|
|#38: Self Mastery Course results interview|
David served in the Army and National Guard. After responding to the World Trade Center and Afghanistan he came home and discovered that his emotional reactions were out of control and inappropriate. In this interview he shares how the Self Mastery course has helped him.
|May 17, 2011|
Overcoming Resistance “I can’t see this working he said.” He said it with a tone and inflection both of inquiry, and hopelessness. That’s what resistance will sound like sometimes. “Neither could I when I started,” I replied. “You can’t see how it is going to happen. If you could, you would know what the change and experience was. You can’t see what the …
|March 16, 2011|
|A Quick Solution to Your Problem|
Jake calls me up because he is looking for a solution to his problems. He fills me in on his relationship issues. After more than 20 years of marriage his wife has decided to move on. She told him he could stay in the house for the sake of the kids, but would have to sleep in another room. He thought that wasn’t much of …
|November 17, 2010|
|#32: The most important thing for your happiness|
Sometimes it helps to take a step back and have a sense of humor about the process of overcoming fears, identifying and changing core beliefs.
|June 23, 2010|
|#30: Overcoming anger using the Self Mastery program|
I interviewed Joe who used the Self Mastery course to overcome his anger and anxiety reactions. He’s started to be aware that some of his emotional reactions are completely gone.
|March 26, 2010|
|Suggestions for Success with the Self Mastery Program|
Suggestions for Success To help you get more out of the Self Mastery program here’s a suggestion: 1. Don’t go for Perfection This may sound strange but the assignments I give aren’t always things you can accomplish, at least not right away. Some people think that session 4 is the hardest. They just agree with people or disagree as an automatic reaction before realizing it. …
|February 24, 2010|
|A Better New Year Resolution|
News Years Resolution Most New Year’s Resolutions fail. After a few months a person is back at their old habits and routines. One reason well intended resolutions fail is because we are already overloaded. Our mind is full of things to think about, our daily schedule is full, and our energy spent on existing routines. With our attention, time, and energy spent, we don’t have …
|December 30, 2008|
|#22: Change your life – interview with Holly|
In this interview I follow up with Holly who I interviewed in early 2007. She has continued to practice the exercises in the Self Mastery Course 1 and added the practices from the Self Mastery Course 2. The result is that she has transformed her emotions from fear to love.
|December 12, 2008|
|#20: The value of a spiritual teacher or mentor|
If the emotional quality of your life and relationships were solely dependent on how smart you were then you wouldn’t need a teacher. But that isn’t the case. A book can’t teach or model for you self acceptance, respect, love or gratitude.
|July 25, 2008|
|#19: Understanding the spiritual journey|
All self help, personal development, growth, and self awareness work is part of the Spiritual Journey. That’s because Spirit means Life. The mystery of the Spiritual Journey is that it happens within the realm of your perceptions, mind, emotions, and consciousness.
|June 26, 2008|
|Spiritual Growth Stumbling Blocks|
Now I’m going to get to the point I originally wanted to make in my last post about spiritual growth stumbling blocks. In my last post I got on to another in the set up and left it at that. Sometimes less is more. To just get one insight or epiphany in a post is enough. Let it sink in and get the next nugget …
|February 18, 2007|
|Personal Growth Is Not Linear|
Progress is not linear, particularly when you are changing core beliefs. Sometimes they are like walls we are hitting with a hammer. We are working and sweating and it seems like nothing is changing. Then, with the slightest tap, a whole section tumbles and possibility and space opens up in your life where there previously was none. Personal growth and cultivating happiness is not linear. …
|February 7, 2007|
|#10: Can you change your life|
I often get asked if people can really change their life. They want to known if they can overcome fears, stop the judgments, and quiet the voice in their head. The answer is yes. However, when people ask, they usually ask with such fear and doubt that almost no amount of words will suffice. Perhaps this interview will help overcome some of those doubts.
|January 1, 2007|
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