Comments on: Jealousy Question http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/03/14/jealousy-question/ Through Self Awareness: Change core beliefs, emotional reactions, and create love and happiness in your relationships Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:56:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Gary http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/03/14/jealousy-question/#comment-114 Gary Wed, 11 Apr 2007 00:05:12 +0000 http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/03/14/jealousy-question/#comment-114 The assumption in your question is that you won’t change over time. I don’t think people can predict who they will be in the future. Nor does it make sense to assume we won’t change. Self Awareness doesn’t mean being able to predict how the relationship will turn out. The value in awareness is in being aware in that moment when the situation arrives to not believe the thoughts of the green eyed monster. If you stay out of relationships because you have made an assumption about what your behavior is like is giving up before you even try. That’s an option I wouldn’t choose. The assumption in your question is that you won’t change over time. I don’t think people can predict who they will be in the future. Nor does it make sense to assume we won’t change.

Self Awareness doesn’t mean being able to predict how the relationship will turn out. The value in awareness is in being aware in that moment when the situation arrives to not believe the thoughts of the green eyed monster.

If you stay out of relationships because you have made an assumption about what your behavior is like is giving up before you even try. That’s an option I wouldn’t choose.

]]> By: warbonnet http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/03/14/jealousy-question/#comment-113 warbonnet Tue, 10 Apr 2007 23:12:36 +0000 http://pathwaytohappiness.com/happiness/2007/03/14/jealousy-question/#comment-113 I have been reading the "Four Agreements" also, and it has been very helpful. Changing the way I think from moment to moment is extremely difficult though, so here I am, trying to learn more. I wonder if when you can see ahead, having self-awareness of your own weaknesses, knowing that you will not handle a situation well... with jealousy. Should we avoid even trying relationships that we know ourselves we are going to end up being the green eyed monster? WB I have been reading the “Four Agreements” also, and it has been very helpful. Changing the way I think from moment to moment is extremely difficult though, so here I am, trying to learn more.

I wonder if when you can see ahead, having self-awareness of your own weaknesses, knowing that you will not handle a situation well… with jealousy.

Should we avoid even trying relationships that we know ourselves we are going to end up being the green eyed monster?

WB

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